Skip to content
My WebMD Sign In, Sign Up

Outliving Your Prognosis

woman smiling

Few other things are more shattering than to receive a diagnosis of an incurable cancer with a prognosis of less than a year to live. Someone’s response to this “news” depends on many factors, including: a person’s age and stage in life, whether or not they have dependents (especially young children), whether or not they feel they’ve achieved their main life goals, knowledge of cancer, past experiences involving death and dying, and how they traditionally respond to adversity. But regardless of background, when someone receives that kind of diagnosis, their focus shifts from future goals and desires to what can and should be done with the limited time that may be left.

But sometimes, death can be cheated and for quite some time. The aggressive cancer responds much better than expected to the treatments given.  This has a remarkable effect on the person fighting for their life. They experience relief from the cancer symptoms – the pain, lack of appetite, weight loss, exhaustion, and shortness of breath begin to gradually fade. The body starts to heal, gaining in vigor and weight, and the person begins to have a more positive outlook. Weeks turn into months, and scans show that the cancer is in remission. This situation can be hard to grasp for someone who had been preparing for death. They may ask their oncologist, “Am I still dying?”

One patient of mine who is in this situation recently exclaimed: “I did not expect to be here. I am elated, of course, but shocked.” One year previously, she lay in the hospital near death after having been diagnosed with widespread pancreatic cancer, blood clots in her lungs, and a bloodstream infection. Somehow, some way, the chemotherapy, antibiotics, and blood thinners pulled her back from the brink of death.

“Am I still dying? Can I make vacation plans? Should I renew my gym membership? I’m just not quite sure where I am and what I should be doing,” she said at a recent office visit. As she talked, her eyes widened and filled with light. It seemed to me that she was in a place few are familiar with. Her expression of disbelief gave way to a tentative smile and then to a broad grin. Then I smiled, feeling a deep appreciation for being a part of this special moment with her. I happily said as I looked her in the eyes, ‘’No, you are not dying,” and: “Yes, you should make plans and resume exercising. You are very much alive.” She understands that the cancer will at some point take her life. But we don’t know when that will be, so for now, she’s living her life.

Has anything like this happened to any of you or someone you know?

Comments

Leave a comment

Important:

The opinions expressed in WebMD Second Opinion are solely those of the User, who may or may not have medical or scientific training. These opinions do not represent the opinions of WebMD. Second Opinion are... Expand

Newsletters

Subscribe to free WebMD newsletters.

  • WebMD Daily

    WebMD Daily

    Subscribe to the WebMD Daily, and you'll get today's top health news and trending topics, and the latest and best information from WebMD.

  • Men's Health

    Men's Health

    Subscribe to the Men's Health newsletter for the latest on disease prevention, fitness, sex, nutrition, and more from WebMD.

  • Women's Health

    Women's Health

    Subscribe to the Women's Health newsletter for the latest on disease prevention, fitness, sex, diet, anti-aging, and more from WebMD.

By clicking Submit, I agree to the WebMD Terms & Conditions & Privacy Policy

URAC: Accredited Health Web Site HONcode Seal AdChoices