New Year's Resolutions and MS

For all of us with MS, an important part of our work is taking care of ourselves ... if we don't, there is nothing left to give to others and little pleasure in our lives for ourselves. So, our very first New Year's resolution should be better self-care.
Now, most people with MS have figured out the basics like "Don't overdo", but that's so general it doesn't really help a lot. What we have to do is look at our lives, figure out how we are using our energy and what's really important, and then we have to make some tough decisions. Every time we use energy, we are risking the very real possibility that we won't have enough energy left to do the things that really matter.

How do we limit the energy-waste that is so costly to us?

1. THINK. It is all too easy to agree quickly to take on one more thing. One more task, chore, even party. So, before you say YES, think about how that new whatever fits into your overall life. Really think. Practice saying, "I'll let you know ..." to unexpected invitations and requests, giving you a chance to figure out what you really want and need to do. Don't be afraid to say "No".


2. PRIORITIZE. Houses don't have to be spotless. Do you dust daily? How about doing it once a week. How often do you really need to vacuum? Yes, a vacuum cleaner is an "energy-saving device", but pushing around (even the self-propelled ones) takes energy. Again, think of cost and benefit. If you are used to cleaning thoroughly several times a week but are then too exhausted to do anything but go to bed, perhaps you can "buy" yourself more meaningful time by limiting your cleaning to shorter times, less often.


3. GET REAL. Don't stand when you can sit, don't walk further than you have to. This one is hard because most of us are used to activity. And I'm not saying don't exercise, because exercise is important in maintaining optimal health. But, honestly, walking all over the grocery store isn't particularly effective exercise and it uses energy that could better be used in planned exercise. Don't be shy about using one of those scooter-chairs with a cart attached to do your grocery shopping. Yes, it's hard to do the first few times, but it's well worth making the effort to get over your discomfort with "looking disabled".


4. SURF. Use catalogues or shop online. OK, for most of us, that won't work for groceries (although in some cities, you can order groceries online and have them delivered to your house -- for a fee, of course!). But for that birthday-wedding-anniversary present, there is no need to exhaust yourself mall-crawling. And there is not much that isn't available online at this point.

Later this week, I want to write more about the very important skill of asking for help. It's not easy for many of us, but it can be such a life-saver.
Take care, all ...

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