The Elderly: Accepting Assistance

Asking for and accepting assistance can be difficult for some folks. I remember when I had back surgery with major complications several years ago. I needed substantial assistance.

I had home health aides several times a week along with physical therapy and a visiting nurse. Having strangers come into my home and assist me in the most personal of care activities was both concerning and emotionally uncomfortable.

It was hard for me to accept help. I was used to doing everything by myself. I couldn't even bathe safely. I needed someone to assist me in and out of my tub. I had a physical therapist who helped me to move my legs through their range of motion and helped me rebuild my leg muscles. It was not easy as I suffered significant pain and spasms in my back and limited to no feeling in parts of my legs.

It was a very humbling experience and from it I gained a personal appreciation for other folks who may have shared similar experiences. I continue to have limitations and experience discomforts, but I am grateful for all I do have and all I can do. I still struggle when I have to ask for assistance with things I might have done independently years ago. But I am more patient with myself and that is good. I used to be more angry and frustrated with myself. Now, although still frustrated at times, I am more accepting and always thankful.

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