Hurting fathers
To all of the fathers I hope you had a special day...but the truth is there will be those who did not. There are men out there who hurt because they have been separated from their children. Sometimes the reasons may be legitimate but other times they may not. This can be a very painful situation.
All too often children are used as pawns in difficult and painful ways that leave no one a winner and the children often the main losers in the end. Way too often children are made to feel guilty and at fault for relationships gone wrong when in reality the problems are between the parents.
The children become scapegoats for anger and bitterness that should be related only between adults. Children need safe loving environments to grow up where good values and morals are taught and demonstrated by the adults in the home. Children need both parents because each parent is able to teach and demonstrate an aspect of life that can not be shared by the other. As much as child needs their mom, they also need a father figure in their life - someone who will provide them with the love and care they deserve.
If you are a man who is being unjustly kept from your children I hope you will seek out ways to let your child/children know you love them. Do what needs to be done so you can see your children and be a part of their life. Seek legal counsel and perhaps join a father's rights and/or a support group. Hopefully next year there will be less unhappy and hurting fathers on Father's day.
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All too often children are used as pawns in difficult and painful ways that leave no one a winner and the children often the main losers in the end. Way too often children are made to feel guilty and at fault for relationships gone wrong when in reality the problems are between the parents.
The children become scapegoats for anger and bitterness that should be related only between adults. Children need safe loving environments to grow up where good values and morals are taught and demonstrated by the adults in the home. Children need both parents because each parent is able to teach and demonstrate an aspect of life that can not be shared by the other. As much as child needs their mom, they also need a father figure in their life - someone who will provide them with the love and care they deserve.
If you are a man who is being unjustly kept from your children I hope you will seek out ways to let your child/children know you love them. Do what needs to be done so you can see your children and be a part of their life. Seek legal counsel and perhaps join a father's rights and/or a support group. Hopefully next year there will be less unhappy and hurting fathers on Father's day.
Technorati Tags: fathers day, divorce, pain
1 Comments:
it is very important to make sure the child understands that the situation is not their fault. this may require many repititions, but it must be done until you feel the child understands. do it patiently, please
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