The Pain of Losing Children - Regardless of Age
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I recently read of a horrific fatal car crash where 3 young kids in their teens and early 20s were killed. One sole survivor remains in serious condition according to the newspaper I read online. These kids were all from the surrounding area where I grew up and lived over 30 years of my life. I knew and worked with a relative of one of the victims. My heart goes out to her and her family. Reading the articles and seeing the photos of the mangled mess of what once was a vehicle, my heart aches for the loved ones that are left behind. And I pray for the lone survivor who is fighting for her life right now. I don't know her personally but that is okay. The Lord does and He hears my prayers.
It will take some time for many of the folks in these small towns to get over the tragedy of this accident. It will not be easy to get over the pain of such loss. I have always felt that emotional pain can be harder than physical pain. Physical pain can be horrible but it often goes away over time as physical healing occurs. Emotional pain on the other hand can last a lifetime and it can invade a person's life as fast as a momentary thought or painful memory is realized.
It is my earnest hope and prayer that the folks effected by this tragic loss will come together and support each other during this most extremely difficult time. Put away any petty grievances or strife they may have and use their energy to cope with the grief they all share. I pray they help each other and support each other as they work through the pain of their loss.
I pray they will find and lean on faith as they travel along their personal life journey. And I hope they will one day reach a point of comfort and emotional healing.
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6 Comments:
I always feel sad when I read these kind of stories. I have a 19 year old girl and I'm glad that where I live (BC Canada) has a graduated driver's license program. She's a new driver and isn't allowed more than unrelated relative under 25 years old to be a passenger in the car. But even here you read about these kinds of automobile accidents. Driver inexperience, speeding, talking or texting on a cell phone, and drinking alcohol always seem to be the biggest factors in fatal accidents involving young people and I hope that thwy will realize that it's a big responsibility and a privilege to be behind the wheel.
I lost my younger sister suddenly in 2006 she was only 42. Although, I miss her dearly - I constantly say - I can't imagine every losing one of my children and my heart breaks for my mom every single day :(
In loving memory of Robin
I love you forever
Your big sis
I know exactly how it feels, unfortunately. I suffered through the death of my daughter to a brain hermorrhage at the age of one month. Bringing home a healthy baby and then losing her is the worst pain you can possibly imagine. I still think of her daily and wish she was here. This is something you learn to accept, but you never get over. No one can possibly know how it feels unless they've also lost a child. There's no grief that's comparable. Every time I read about a child dying or see it on the news my heart literally aches for the parents. It feels like someone reached inside your chest, grabbed ahold of your heart, and violently ripped it out. That's how bad the pain is. I've lost people close to me before but nothing can ever be as painful as burying your child. It goes against the laws of nature, that you're supposed to go first. I miss her so much and my heart has never recovered from it.
I never thought I would be in a situation where I had to post my grief. The pain in my heart is unbelievable after the death of my 29 year old son. I can only say that GOD and His Son Jesus, is the only way I can breathe every day. I can find some relief knowing that my son is in heaven. Prayer has not changed the situation but I feel it is changing me! I now know that I must totally rely on God to help me through this pain....Prayer works!!
I thought I had felt pain before but the day my daughter died my life changed forever. It is something I could never wish on a worst enemy. People going through this type of loss are going through the worst of it. We go through a terrible grieving process that never ends. It does not get easier. I lost my daughter 9 years ago and it seems like yesterday. I remember getting upset each time someone would say "I know it must be hard". They honestly have no clue. The people that do relate are those that have suffered the same tragic loss. These parents are all bound by the pain. If you know someone going through this just be there. Let them yell, scream, cry, blame, and then just love them through it.
I lost my only son that was 19 years old to a violent crime,and that has changed my life forever, I am angry I ask myself why me, my heart hurts, sometime I hate the world but I put my trust in God and realize he dont make mistakes and my beautiful son is with him, and that I will see him again.
so may he RIP Marques K McGhee 1987-2007
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