Orgasm Odds
I see a lot of questions on my Sex Matters message board from husbands who have wives who, for varying reasons, are disinterested in sex and when pressed by their husbands for reasons, admit that they find it unpleasant. Because sex is unpleasant for them, they often will refuse to seek therapy or take steps to correct the problem. Here are some interesting statistics about women, orgasm, and attitudes toward sex:
Approximately 10% of women have never had an orgasm from any type of stimulation. Their situation is definitely different from a woman who has had orgasms.
If a woman has not had an orgasm ever, sex is often decreasingly interesting to that woman. It's like going to a movie and leaving the theater ten minutes before it ends -- every time. You would stop going to the movies after about 100 or more visits -- probably sooner than that!
I don't have any statistics on women who never masturbate, but I'm willing to hazard a guess. Since about 10% of women have not had an orgasm, we can count them in (maybe 9% for those who try to masturbate but don't reach orgasm).
And, in my clinical practice, I have encountered a small number of women who are orgasmic with a partner, but do not masturbate. I'm willing to add another 10% to the number from that. So, my clinically based guess is about 19% give or take a few percentage points.
I don't know what the percentage of women is who do not enjoy receiving oral stimulation from research. But, I'm willing to form a guess based on my 23 years in this field. I would estimate about 20% of women do not enjoy it. The reasons for this are all over the map: "I'm dirty down there," "It feels too intense," "I don't like kissing my own genital smells when I kiss my partner," "It's too personal," -- to name a few.
As I write, there are probably researchers working on these issues. If you are a woman falling into the categories I've described, I hope you will think this through and seek help through couples' therapy.
Related Topics: Secrets of the Sexually Satisfied Woman, Women: Let's Talk About Sex
Approximately 10% of women have never had an orgasm from any type of stimulation. Their situation is definitely different from a woman who has had orgasms.
If a woman has not had an orgasm ever, sex is often decreasingly interesting to that woman. It's like going to a movie and leaving the theater ten minutes before it ends -- every time. You would stop going to the movies after about 100 or more visits -- probably sooner than that!
I don't have any statistics on women who never masturbate, but I'm willing to hazard a guess. Since about 10% of women have not had an orgasm, we can count them in (maybe 9% for those who try to masturbate but don't reach orgasm).
And, in my clinical practice, I have encountered a small number of women who are orgasmic with a partner, but do not masturbate. I'm willing to add another 10% to the number from that. So, my clinically based guess is about 19% give or take a few percentage points.
I don't know what the percentage of women is who do not enjoy receiving oral stimulation from research. But, I'm willing to form a guess based on my 23 years in this field. I would estimate about 20% of women do not enjoy it. The reasons for this are all over the map: "I'm dirty down there," "It feels too intense," "I don't like kissing my own genital smells when I kiss my partner," "It's too personal," -- to name a few.
As I write, there are probably researchers working on these issues. If you are a woman falling into the categories I've described, I hope you will think this through and seek help through couples' therapy.
Related Topics: Secrets of the Sexually Satisfied Woman, Women: Let's Talk About Sex
116 Comments:
Great insights on why women respond the way they do!
I have a question, my husband has a appetite for sex. I do not. I like it just not as often. What can I do to decrease his appetite?
After the birth of my first child, I have become very ticklish around my vagina. I no longer can have oral sex or even be touched without squirming like crazy. I can have intercourse without a problem. What happened to me and can it be fixed?
how do women have squirting orgasms
y. A large percentage of women don't have orgasms during intercourse. Vibrators and other toys are often the most consistent orgasm givers for many women. Many men don't recognize how much foreplay and then sexual stimulation most women need. Most men don't understand women have two kinds of orgasms: clitoral and g-spot (sometimes called vaginal orgasm). Most couples need to communicate more and experiment more to find the sexual stimulation type, intensity and amount they both need.
I've never known that some women dont like oral stimulation from men. I'm pretty sure my girl loves it, and i don't mind it myself. Although why do women hate giving men oral sex? my girlfriend says she likes it but i know a lot of women hate it.
It's a mistake to let a man know that you like sex. If you love sex and have easy/multiple orgasms, men will fear, envy and/or despise you. Excuses and justifications abound with 'her' weight being a handy favorite. If you've never experienced an orgasm and hate sex, your man will CRAVE you, or at least lament loudly and cheat shamelessly. I think many, many men unconsciously view women as either Madonna(Holy mother) or Whore. It's a lose/lose dicotomy. I refuse to apologize for my sexuality. If my husband can't maintain his erection, that's his problem. I still have a right to mine.
You want to decrease his desire? Season his food with chaste berry, or maybe act like you love him so much, you can't get enough of him. You'll have a White Christmas for sure.
She has an erection? Wow, that is scary!
Actually, yeah, when aroused, the clitoris does engorge with blood and become firm much like a penis, only with the nerve-endings concentrated in a much smaller area. But the clitoris does not 'squirt.' I think it's true, though, that a man who is unsure of his own potency would likely feel threatened by a sexually competent female. He may be attracted, even fascinated, initially but unless he overcomes his own inhibitions would eventually feel the need to reject or humiliate her in an effort to save face. Feigning distaste for sex may work, but that would be as deceptive and manipulative as feigning orgasms in an effort to "get it over with." In a so called age of sexual enlightenment, one would hope for a better outcome between two mature adults.
I am 5 mos pregnant and wonder if masturbation with a vibrator could be harmful to my baby,I do have extremely long orgasms when using my vibrator.
Ok, I have a question, I have orgasms when I masturbate with "toys" but not when I don't, and I haven't had an orgasm while having sex with my partner. Could this be because everytime we have sex its in a place where we could get caught and I'm too nervous, we dont really go a long time or maybe because of the fact that I don't ever think its coming so I tell him to finish? I don't know, I'm just confused about it because he is great at it and it feels good and everything but I just can't acheive and orgasm and it frustrates me. Is he not good enough or do I have some problems?
my wife has not problems haveing an orgasm. she has at least 2 every time i think the ones that dont just have not found the right grove yet or guy
ewI get awesome "clitoral" & multiple orgasms, but i never get "g-spot" orgasms. . . unless they are very similar...my husband is willing to work with me. What's the defference between the orgasms, how can i get the "g-spot" ones?
Ok i have a question i heard that women have a set number of orgasms and cant have any more than that number is this true? And im talking about the women who do have ogasms. please reply.
-concerned
Ok i have a question i heard that women have a set number of orgasms and cant have any more than that set number. Is this true? and im talkin about the women who do have orgasms.Please Reply.
-concerned
Unexperianced!! Is it true can women realy squirt fluid when they reach orgasm? Or is it just fiction. Please let me know
I am 44 years old and regularly have multiple orgasms when my husband and I have intercourse and yes, women do have squirting orgasms--when the g-spot is stimulated. I usually have as many as 15 orgasms in one session of lovemaking. For me, vaginal (or g-spot)orgasms are alot better than just clitoral orgasms. We have sex at least 4 times a week now that I have had a tubal ligation and don't have to worry about pregnancy.
There have been two postings about "squirting orgasms" but no one has responded... could someone add some insights? Is it true can women really squirt fluid when they reach orgasm? Or is it just fiction. Please let me know. Are they just peeing?
I just turned 43 and in this past year I have had my body respond unlike it has ever done before. I am a sexual person, however, recently I find I can have multiple orgasms (23 the other night, could not believe it). Anyway, I have never done anything like this before. Plus in regards to spuirting, YES - it is possible and no you are not peeing. I asked my dr. about this and was told when having an orgasm it is impossible to pee at the same time. Needless to say sex has never been so good. However, I am having one problem - the mess. I seem to soak everything, I am trying to control this, but it is almost ridiculous the amount liquid (C__) that I am releasing. I guess I am wondering if this in anyway normal???? It is not something you can just discuss with anyboby. Advise welcomed.
nxrafter years of not being able to have an orgasm I have recently been pleasantly surprised to find I am able to enjoy masturbation, however, I just cannot quite complete the orgasm. "Its just on the tip of my tongue", if I might. I feel good while this is going on, but am going nuts because I cannot finish. This can go on for hours. Any hints??
well after 10 years of marriage I have finally found out what a true orgasm really is. It is sad that I had to find out with someone other than my husband but oh well! As far as squirting is concerned I found that the best way to obtain it is to get a silver bullet with a 8 speed option and place it on the side of your clitoris and move it up and down on the side and the feeling will come and after the 1st one it is really easy to get more. My last comment is to use a lot of towels because you never know how much fluid u will release when u reach your orgasm.
How do I tell the difference between an orgasm and having to urinate? Even when I go to the bathroom before, I still can't tell. It's frustrating to me and my husband. I blame part of this problem being pregnant, and my bladder-empty or not I still go.
Is something wrong with me/my body?
just want to say to all the women who dont want to give it to their husbands as often as they like, he's either gonna cheat to get some, or start the divorce proceedings!!! i have 4 kids and a busy house, and i still have time for us!!!!you women who dont give it up anymore are giving those of us who want it a bad rap.
My boyfriend always has a hunger for sex i do as well but he always orgasms before i do. I still really have not been able to orgasm and im craving the feeling.What can i do to change that?
ok for all you wondering minds out there. Squirting Orgasm, you ask yourself if it is in fact true or not. Well guess what, it is true. I had one expierence about a year and a half ago and up until the other day had not had another one. I never knew the difference between clitoral and vaginal or (G-Spot) orgasms. Now I can assure myself that I do know the difference. So anyways lets get to the good answers. lol. The only way I have been able to get this "squirting orgasm" is with deep penetration. My husband says he can feel my "g-spot" and it feels like a small round hard spot. When he hits it I go wild. Eventually I get a warm feeling and ten the gushing starts. I can assure you that it is not urine. The only problem I am having now is that I can't stop them from happening. I must have had between 9 and 12 squirting orgasms during a 2 hour period of sexual intercourse. Sometimes the squirting will be barley noticeable, other times the sheets and the both of us will be soaked. I honestly feel that not many women have had this occurance and more women should. So for all the guys out there, get on it! Give your laies what they need. It may be hard to accomplish at first but with good communication between the 2 of you anyone can do it. And just a little piece of advice.....when she feels like shes going to "squirt" and she tells you to stop......keep going for like another 5 seconds and the fluis will at least double. Good luck and happy G-spot hunting !
Me being Roxanne's husband. I have been able to do this amazing feat just within the last few days. I love it and her face is more than enough satisfaction for me. I seem to hit this one spot within her and it seems to do the trick. To you fella's out there. Its simple, tell her what she wants to hear. talk during sex. Let her know what you feel inside her. If she tells you stop it feels like i have to pee. DON'T. Or if she starts to feel hot. Don't mess up the rhythm. Just keep going and she will be squirting in no time. Guys if your a little short were it counts don't worry. Hands and toys can explore and find the spot as well. Get your rain coats boys.
F.Y.I.
To the person who is becoming frusterated by not being able to orgasm during masterbation....if you are playing with yourself and constantly have the thought in the back of your mind that you can't finish or if you are trying too hard it's definatly not going to happen.
My advice is to just let it be. Watch a video or something. Keep your mind off trying to finish and just enjoy the stimulation and I'm sure in due time you will accomplish what you are set out for.
Hope my advice helps....
As many women have complained about not having an orgasm(period)and reading that not to think about it just let it happen, I still can't find myself having one. My partner and I are very sexually active I love the sex and still I can't seem to have an orgasm. Please help I,m so frustrated. What can I do to have one,Please help.
just wanted to say i gush everytime me and my partner make love .
we have deep pentration and i just wondered if it was normal to make some much fluid.
the sheet,s are wet though afterwards but i love sex.
me and my partner have only been together 7 months and i have gush before in past relionships but i do it everytime me and my partner make love.
is it normal to make the sheets so wet?
I wanted know if when i gush if it is normal to not only have wet sheets but so wet it soakes the matress, i know that sound nasty but it happens so now we use towls as well, but i dont know if thats normally and or if its urine.
To the commenter above: Try posting this question on our Sexuality message board.
Thank you.
Within the last few months my girlfriend and I have discovered the squirting orgasm. I can get her to squirt for hours. We now use pee pads because nothing else will stop the extensive fluid. While we've never measured the liguid, I'm guessing one half gallon.(really, it is a lot) Last weekend was good and bad. We had great sex but we spent Saturday night in the emergency room. Seems she was dehydrated. We didn't tell the doctor because we weren't sure if he knew about this or maybe we would have felt humiliated. I'm glad there are others out there. Where does this liquid come from and what is its purpose other than to squirt? What happened to all of this fluid before she knew how to relax and squirt?
I used a vibrator and that's how I squirted. I'm almost positive it's only because I was vibrating the U spot somehow because it's not the warm, sweating, rhythmatic muscle spasms that I hear are the real cliteral orgasms. It's frustrating that I can't get the right spot, I guess. You squirt when you his the G Spot somehow, during intercourse, or other. Anyone know of problems when you're on birth control or prozac/welbutrin in achieving an orgasm?
i have a question i have never had an orgasam except while using my vibrator. sex feels wonderful but i just cant reach that spot. i dont rush my b/f at all. anyone out there have any tips?
When my bf and I first started seeing each other 15 months ago we had sex all the time...it was wonderful. Now that we live together we hardly ever have sex. He knows I have a very very healthy appetite for sex and his has seemed to drizzle to almost nothing. I am 40 and he is 47. Is it his age that has done this to him or is it because I have such an appetite? I have asked him to get viagra but he hasn't. I get so frustrated that I just want to find sex elsewhere but since I am not a cheater it isn't going to happen. I do use a toy on occasion but I don't have an orgasm usually...when he and I use a toy and he orally stimulates me at the same time I do orgasm.
The "gushing or squirting" is for real. I'm 46 years old and have been married for 10 years and I felt my first "gushing" about 2 weeks ago. The first time it happened...during the high point of my orgasm, i felt like I had to pee, but my husband wouldn't stop stimulating my g-spot or clitoris, I don't know which. All I know is that I felt this big gush of fluid that soaked my sheets, my nightshirt, and mattress. This defintely wasn't pee because pee isn't released that fast. When you urinate, it's released slower and more warmer. This gushing experience happens so fast, you really can't control how much fluid is released. As of this writing, I have experienced 3 in all. I noticed that I get this type of orgasm is when I'm totally relaxed. Meaning that I'm totally focused on the stimulation of my g-spot or clitoris...I'm not sure which one causes the gushing. My sexual appetite has always been normal, if not lower, but this type experience is off the chain.
Where exactly does this gushing come from? Is it from the vagina itself or above (urethra)
Reason I ask this, as from many a porn film i have seen and some that have had women 'squirting' they all seem to 'squirt' from above the vaginal opening ie.. urethra. Hence my wondering mind.
i have experienced that gushing, but I can't feel it. it just happens. I love sex, however, my boyfriend metioned how wet i get which bothered me. I think I get wet WAY too much. some might thank this is a weird complaint but i'm a little worried about it. sometimes i dont even realize it until i go to the bathroom. Is this normal?
i'm 48 years old and stayed celebate for ten years earlier after my divorce. two years ago i became sexually active the first man was my age and was rather quick to ejaculate. i stopped seeing him after six months and started seeing a young more experienced man. Well, i never did have a g spot orgasm and i was very satisfied and a bit embarassed by the amount of fluid that leaked out, but now i just have fun with plenty of towels around. just sorry it took so long to discover the g spot.
I could use some help!! My partner hates it when I squirt...she does not. I truly have to focus to NOT squirt when we make love. I have always done this and am not sure if i have ever had a "real orgasm"...this is a deal breaker what cani do to reach orgasm w/o squirting?
yeah the squirting thing...totally real. the first time it happened to me i was in complete shock and totally embassessed. i didn't know what had happened or f i had just relaxed too much and peed. however my boyfriend was over-joyed and explained that it was normal and not that common. since then i have been researching it a little and all i can find is that most women squirt from g-spot stimulation. but when he is able to get me to orgasm its usually by focusing on my clitoris. so, i mean is that normal? and yeah someone needs to invent an easy way to clean up because i lost count tonight and i think i've left a puddle of me everywhere in his house :-P
Can someone explain the texture of the fluids that are squirting when having an orgasm. When using a vibrator I have released liquid but it felt like pee. During sex I did orgasm but I did not release any fluids. Is there a difference?
Okay for you people wondering if the squirting thing is true. It is. It happend to me for the first time, and I am 40 years old. I was on top and totally relaxed and it actually happened before i reached the orgasm so i was embarrassed at first because i was soaked and so was he, so i stopped. I know next time what to expect and won't stop the next time around.
My partner and I love having sex. We go at it like rabbits some times but he's starting to get mad because i don't orgasm when he's inside. I respond to oral but not vaginally. I don't know how to make this happen. Am I doing something wrong? is this normal?
It was such a pleasure to read all of the above comments about the squirting phenomenon. I now know not to feel like I am the only woman in the world with this problem or blessing.I think the biggest fear all of us have after reading these blogs is that we are peeing all over our partners. According to one writer her doctor said it is clinically impossible to pee and orgasm at the same time. I'm going to try and focus on that little bit of news and maybe some of my anxiety will be diminished.
It would also be nice if we had a little more control as to when these orgasms take place because they are wonderful when they're happening but your sofa or your bed can be flooded before you know it. I never have sex anymore without putting towels in place .
It also seems that most of us started having these orgasms later in life after the age of 40. I truly believe that is because at that age we become more comfortable with our sexuality and relax a lot more.
They actually have videos where thay teach men to make their women squirt. So it must be something most men like.
Another thing to remind all you women over 50 of is that most women in that age bracket are complaining of vaginal dryness. So I guess we should just count our blessings and enjoy our condition.Everytime I tell my doctor I'm extremely wet and have gushing orgasms her response is "so, what is your problem??"
My husband thinks I don't enjoy sex. How do I convince him I do? I just get so frustrated because I don't orgasm from him inside of me. He has told me more than once that women don't orgasm from a man's penis inside them that we only orgasm from clitoral stimulation by either oral or touching. I can orgasm when he gives oral or touches me. Do I have a problem? Or is he the problem such as not being big enough? I am so desperately wanting to feel an orgasm from a penis inside of me. Any advice?
im 25 years old with 2 young kids and fiancee and ijust split up after 9 years. he says the problems is that after my first son my sex drive went downhill, and then after my second son it was non existant. ive never had an orgasm and sex just isnt fun for me anymore. it doesnt help that by the time i go to bed im exhausted and stay awake for a minute. and hes not home for some nap time nookie. what can i do to increase my sex drive? and what about orgasms??? i would like to know whta it feels like.
female squirting is caused by the Skene's gland that is located to the right and left of the vaginal cana. look it up at wikipedia.org and you will learn EVERYTHING you've been whanting to know about femail ejaculatoin. I feel kind of wird posting this cause i'm a man. A man on a never ending quest to learn how to please my woman. LIKE EVERY MAN SHOULD. Don't let the bad apples spoil the bunch ladys there just lazzy and don't want to reasearch it. please be greatfull i shared this info and don't crit my typing i'm i'm tierd. educate the masses!
I am a women who squirts during GOOD sex and would also like to know why??? I am not complaining. I enjoy the release and my partners love it as well, but I want to know the science behind it. Is it pee? I dont think so. On occasion it smells a lil like urine but not usually and it is always clear maybe once or twice had a yellow tint. I want to know where all this fluid comes from... It seems to come from my urethra but not really sure. I do know it is VERY INTENSE to much so sometimes! Thanks for you response.
I just gained the ability to squirt, and I've only done it a few times. The last time I did it, there was some blood in it. Does anyone know what that could be caused by?
I am having a problem having more than one orgasm.I dont know if that is normal, or if there is a way i can have multiple orgasms.
I just recently came off of a antidepressant called paxil. I keep wanting to have an orgasm.please tell me what to you think?
OK, well if clear fluid coming out of your vagina is squirting, then i just did it like 10 times. so apparently is it possible
hey all..on the squirting thing, ditto. my man did it to me and i was shocked. he knew how to hit the g-spot and i was 38 at the time. never did it before. done it lots since, both with intercourse and with his hand. i initially thought i was peeing too ha ha. so now it's very common for me and yes there is a lot of fluid and no, ladies, don't worry about too much. the squirting orgasm feels different to me than when i orgasm from intercourse and also different from clitoral stimulation. it is not as intense, but still relieving and a feeling of release. good to know that i'm not the only one who never heard about it before my man taught me - great sex comes from great communication and trust. thanks for everyone's info!
im only 23 and i just discovered the squirting orgasm. im with an older experienced man that focuses on pleasing me. no one else has been able to make me orgasm like this. its exhausting but amazing. i guess i discovered it at a younger age than most women.
I am 29 and recently started dating a 24 year old man casually. We had sex and I am pretty sure I "squirted" for the first time. There was a small wet spot on the bed, and we had a phenomenal chemistry, I was very relaxed. I think that is why it happened. A lot of time women think too much during sex with a partner. I know, personally, when I masturbate, I can bring myself to orgasm very quickly because I am uninhibited. It was embarrasing at first, but then he mentioned it was great sex, so I was confident he was not too freaked out! I checked the mattress, out of curiosity, to see....did I pee??? It's funny how so many of us express and think the same thing when this happens, and none of us know eachother. :)
In all honesty, I am not sure I could duplicate the stimulation, or if it will ever happen again, but I can tell you it was a pleasant surprise!
This is the first time ever talking to any body about this but ive been with this guy for over a year and a half. And we love each other and all that but... He can never get me wet, So sex is some what ackward at momments. I mean he makes me horny but its like right when the clothes and stuff come off and were ready to go at it. I just cant get wet... is it his problem? Or is it my problem could I have a medical problem?. Any help from any body with the same issues is highly needed please respond a.s.a.p thanks
squirting/gushing.....its the truth - someone earlier posted that the MESS is whats so bad - the rest is AMAZING...completely 'out of control'...soaking and multi layered...I dont know how one woman counted - to 23 at that - i find that hyperventilating happens - and lots of quivering and shaking - complete loss of control...and a mess...but a hell of a ride...and it started about 5 years ago. I started off being a girl in my teens who couldnt have an orgasm w/o clitoral/masterbation - sex etc...had a few mild(compared to now) orgasms - 20's much the same- no big deal / but was fun! then 30's put the pedal to the medal and it keeps turnin up as I hit 40. to the 6% of 'us' women who experience this - 'wow' and i do wish to know more about your experiences - not only do I gush - but I just get soaked...sweat - sometimes...its like I went swimming! ...ok ladies - if you have any experiences to share - would love to hear em...
and to me - the secret of it all is just 'letting go'...
it just happens...if you let it. you've got to find it inside...its right 'here'....Enjoy!
Hi everyone, very interesting, brilliant, I recently split up with my partner of 17 yrs, never had an orgasm, felt totally useless in bed, started going to psycho sexual counsilling, relaxed a lot and met lots of guys, the key to sex for me now is getting the guy to pleasure me first, I can't stop squirting now and the guys love it, and I feel so good and I get so much pleasure from sex now and my vaginal contractions are mind blowing for the guys, so I've been told anyway....so for any of you ladies that have never had an orgasm, don't lose heart, think dirty, get a hot guy that wants to please you, get to know ur body, buy a few vibrators, start feeling sexy, get some sexy undies and think about being naughty, do different things in different places....and go with it, If I can get to where I am now, then anyone can....and to you guys....be patient, pleasure a woman, start off slowly, learn what you both like and add to it on the next occasion, I hope this helps someone.....
I can never have an orgasm through penetration, only through clitoral stimulation. Needless to say, this makes my partner feel terrible. I try to tell him that it's not his fault, and then we both end up becoming caught up in the situation. So my question is simply why I can't orgasm through penetration.
please help!
I'm 21 and have been married for nearly 2 years. I'm amazed at how much my husband and I have been able to accomplish in our sex life, but I do have some questions. First, I think that I've just discovered the "squirting" orgasm a few nights ago, but it only happens when i'm getting oral pleasure which seems to be different from what I've read so far. (It was great to read some of the posts that clarified it was not urine becasue that's what I thought it might be and i was quite embarrased). Also, I've never been able to orgasm because of penetration, the only time i can come during intercourse is when there is alot of clitorial stimulation and friction, I'm not sure if that's normal or if we just haven't found my g-spot?? And lastely, there is a big difference between my orgasims when I am getting oral or when we have intercourse, during oral I don't have the full-body climaxing, but I do have a lot of liquid.... i guess this might be the difference between clitorial orgasm and g-spot orgasm???
My fiancee told me once that it felt as if i was peeing on him during intercourse... Am I really? Is it normal? I cant enjoy making love anymore since the only thing i think about is if I am peeing on him.
hello im a first timer on here this is the first time ive felt irrritated on the lower area of my personal beings and i was wondering why women like me who are irregular on theyre periods and have problems like of such depression , stress as well tight muscles. i sat down on my chair and felt a tingle down in that area if you know wut i mean and its not like me i feel uncomfortable all of a sudden i felt my orgsm like wanna happen but didnt but feeling remained i know i think right it could be a hormone imbalance i think if not mistaken yes i am intimate at times but first time since ive sat and felt this way its embarrasing and is weird while i was sitting squeezing tight cuz i felt that tingling feeling weird now was it and could it be cuz my muscles were tight i was like stiff could it be when i was sitting and i was squeezing tight my muscles just sittin for awhile and felt all of a sudden this tingling feeling so im askin for some advice here wut is it .hormone imbalance
mrs. mnoz by the way ive had two cesarians my kids are big now i have a 8 and 6 yr old
Hi there, my girlfriend squirts when we have foreplay but it doesn't seem like an orgasm because she doesn't exactly go wild! Sounds a strange thing to be concerned about maybe and don't get me wrong she obviously likes it... But, she then after a couple of squirts she wants sex, but she has never orgasmed during sex... Again, she seems like she enjoys it but doesn't seem to go nuts... Is she not getting as much out of it as she can or have i just had very expressive women before???
I have had two men tell me that my clitoris moves. I will be feeling great and then all the sudden he's not hitting the spot any more. Is this possible? I tell him that he's not hitting it and he swears that he hasn't moved his finger. This is very frustrating for me and for the men that take the time to try and please me. What the heck is wrong with me?
Hi, im a firt timer on this website and someone guided me to this website. I have a few questions that i would like answered. My girlfriend and I have been going out a while now and she was my first and i was her first. But since we started having sex ive only been able to give her one orgsm through intercourse, but i can give her multiple orgasims through oral sex. Am i just not hiting the right spots?
another questions is my girlfriend has only came once and that was the time i gave her a orgasm through intercourse, but when we have sex i come sometimes twice why is that?
Hi, im a firt timer on this website and someone guided me to this website. I have a few questions that i would like answered. My girlfriend and I have been going out a while now and she was my first and i was her first. But since we started having sex ive only been able to give her one orgsm through intercourse, but i can give her multiple orgasims through oral sex. Am i just not hiting the right spots?
another questions is my girlfriend has only came once and that was the time i gave her a orgasm through intercourse, but when we have sex i come sometimes twice why is that?
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I am not sure whether I satisfy my girlfriend. I normally orgasm before her and she feels so bad about it, i cant erect fast thereafter until after 10 or so min. She sometimes orgasms, but may be once in three or so intercourses. Two weeks ago I was preparing to travel and we tried to have sex but we couldn't coz I couldn't erect, it was so dissapointing for me, it is still haunting me. I will be away for long before we can see each other, do you think she will cheat on me?
Please help...
I think my girlfriend might start cheating on me coz I am away and I am not sure whether I was satisfying her,
help..
I never "squirted" before OR had mulitple orgasms...i was thinking with sex I was just lucky if I had one. With my man now, I cum at least twice Could be up to 4 or 5 when he takes his time. My Problem is that I've started "squirting" but I know it's pee. It smells like pee, the thing is sometimes it's warm and sometimes its cold. I don't know if im having a combo pee/squirt at times. My boyfriend was worried at first but he just got used to it and it now he knows I really came when he feels the wetness, I tried those kegal excersises but that is way to tedious and I feel weird doing it. HELP ME. What is going on.
I am 38 I met this sexy lovely man. He taught me how to squirt. The first time we had sex I squirted about 3 or 4 times. He enjoys it a lot, he says it feels like a gush of warm water. To me it feels different from the other orgasm and yes the bed gets soaked. Afterwards though I feel like I lost water weight
I started having squirting orgasms about 2 years ago. My then boyfriend and I had an amazing sex life. He kept teling me to relax and let go and to push the orgasm out when I felt myself getting ready to orgasm. I now squirt during oral or vaginal sex. And no it is not pee, because my room would smell. During deep penetration is when i have squirted the most usually when bent over while having sex to the point of hitting the dressr tht is next to the bed. As far as the mess I keep a waterproof mattress pad on the bed and use lots of towels. My boyfriend and I broke up last year and I was apprehensive of how the next man I was with would react. I have been with 2 men since then and they both loved the squirting
im getting frustrated with the whole squirtihg thing i am a young stud of 24 and i 'love' my wife' hour after hour and am i have legnth to spare ive done everything to her, aside bringing in reinforcements, to make her squirt she will have about 30 or so orgasms in three or so hours then she "goes numb". shes very responsive, sometimes i wonder if i am hurting her because some of these orgasms are so intense.ive tried toys tons of foreplay a thousand different positions hair pulling gets the job done but no squirt HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!
cris,
why are you making this such a competitive thing? If I were your girlfriend I'd be exhausted with your efforts. Numb? yeah, I'd say so.
When did you all decide that sex has to be a contest of who can achieve the wettest orgasm?
im not making it a horse race she is my wife and it is something i would like to see done in person a goal is always good i need feed back not critisism thanks for reading
SOMETHING HAPPENED TO ME! Any ideas. Ok I havent had a growth spirt since I was 14 even before my miscarrage and during it... notta. Still wore the same clothes. But since Ive been with my boyfriend my boobs have grown three cups and I changed down there. We cant find any of my spots its like Im deeper or something. Im not pregnate been taking all kinds of tests WHAT IS IT?
SOMETHING HAPPENED TO ME! Any ideas. Ok I havent had a growth spirt since I was 14 even before my miscarrage and during it... notta. Still wore the same clothes. But since Ive been with my boyfriend my boobs have grown three cups and I changed down there. We cant find any of my spots its like Im deeper or something. Im not pregnate been taking all kinds of tests WHAT IS IT?
anonymous,
Our Health Professionals can't make a diagnosis on the Internet. Keep working with your health provider to discover the cause.
I enjoy making love to my husband, I always have multiple squirting orgasms(10-20). I have a very High Sex Drive and enjoy oral sex I noticed my husband suddenly stopped and asked why, his response was he did not think it is normal, did not like the constant squirting thinks it is disrespectful because he thinks I am urinating I have always had several squirting orgasms I have spoken to my girlfriends in the past none of them have ever had that some had never even had an orgasm. Is this normal? Do I have a problem on having too many orgasm? And is this normal "squirting when having an orgam or am I just a freak? Is this urine that I am squirting out? I am really hurt and upset about this, is there anything I can do to stop this?
...ABOUT THE SQUIRTING ORGASIM THING...I AM SOOM-TO-BE-28. I EXPERIENCED MY FIRST ONE WHEN I WAS 20 AFTER THE BIRTH OF MY DAUGHTER. I WAS EMBARASSED. I, LIKE MOST OF US "SQUIRTERS" I THOUGHT I WAS PEEING. I WAS YOUNG AND SHY AND WE NEVER REALLY DISCUSSED IT. A FEW YEARS BACK I HAD A GUY FRIEND WHO I WENT CLUBBING WITH ALOT. ONE NIGHT WE CAME IN REALLY DRUNK, ONE THING LED TO ANOTHER AND THE NEXT THING I KNEW THE SQUIRTING HAD RETURNED! WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER EVER SINCE! WE DONE ALOT OF OUR OWN RESEARCH ON IT. HE LOVES IT. I'M NOT EMBARASSED ANYMORE. THIS IS WHAT I KNOW. I SQURIT ALMOST EVERY TIME WE HAVE SEX, ORAL OR PENETRATION. IT IS USUALLY ALOT! AFTER CLOSE EXAMINATION I KNOW IT COMES FROM MY VAGINA. IT IS A CLEAR FLUID. IT'S THE VERY BEST FEELING IN THE WORLD. I KNOW I ALWAYS HAVE MULTIPULE ORGASIMS THERE IS NO WAY TO COUNT HOW MANY. I SWEAR SOMETIMES I THINK I'M HAVING A SEIZEURE, A GOOD ONE THOUGH! I JUST LOSE CONTROL. IT'S AWESOME! AS FOR SUGGESTIONS ON HOW TO HAVE ONE: I WOULD SUGGEST TOTAL RELAXATION, DON'T THINK ABOUT IT JUST CONCENTRATE ON HOW AWESOME THE PENETRATION FEELS. DON'T WORRY ABOUT MAKING A MESS, I DOUBT YOUR MAN WILL COMPLAIN. IF YOU'RE STILL HAVING TROUBLE, I'LL TELL YOU I'VE NEVER NOT SQUIRTED AFTER HAVING 3 OR 4 MARGARITAS! MY BOYFRIEND IS OLDER THAN ME AND HE HAS A SPECIAL NICKNAME FOR ME, IT'S "SQUIRT"! AS FOR THE WIFE WHOSE HUSBAND THINKS IT'S "DISRESPECTFUL", WOW THAT'S THE FIRST TIME I'VE HEARD THAT ONE. WHAT PLANET IS HE FROM? DOESN'T HE REALIZE HOW MANY MEN DREAM OF MAKING THEIR WOMAN SQUIRT?
I have a question, Im only 18 years old and Ive never felt any kind of pleasure really during sex.Its kind of like Im numb except I feel him and some pain if anything.i went to my doctor for my yearly and I talked to her about it and she had no idea what I was talking about and said that I just need to have more sex because girls dont just feel pleasure its takes them along time.But its like its my first couple times.So do you know why this ihappening to me and or what i could do? Id really appreciate it thank you!
I have a question for those of you who squirt. I learned how to squirt with my lover who had previous experience and have been able to do so with him and by myself for a few months now. Almost everytime I orgasm. I can squirt from g-spot or clitoral stiumulation. I have noticed that at times my urine scent is very strong. I drink plenty of water and my doctor has tested me for a urine infection but I am fine. Have any of you noticed this to be the case with you? Could this be the result of the gland being so stimulated?
Great! Everyone has found the trigger (not the G-spot) to make a woman piss. Yes, it is urine. I would love for someone to show me the anatomy of a woman, or man that holds a liquid like that...Other than the bladder. If anyone would get back to basics (Men) you are getting pissed on. Withing the evolution of man and woman, neither have developed another liquid container.
I was wondering if someone could help me with something i am confused with... i have been with my fiance for about 2 and a half years.. he has been the only one to actually make me orgasm... besides myself. so last night we were using a bullet while having sex. it was on my *hood* and i had orgasmed..... then about 5 minutes later i got really ticklish on my hood and *squirted*... im guessing because it was warm and like i pee'd but there was no smell..*of course i smelled *lol
it made it so i like couldnt move and i just wanted to laugh like i was being tickled really really bad...so would that just be the squirting that you guys have been discussing? it wasnt alot... but it was like i had a small amount of water dumped on me lol. anywho,, if you can help me not think i am a freak or something lol....
To the anonymous guy who declares it "is" pee because there is no other liquid container.. you don't know what you're talking about. Female ejaculation comes from a gland, similar to the male prostate -- it's the female equivalent. It produces the liquid and releases it into the urethra. Yes, I experience g-spot orgasms and it took me years to figure out why I was wetting the bed. I have to put down a water proof pad and towels when I have sex. Men LOVE it! They feel so proud and accomplished when they can make this happen. It usually happens when the clitoris is being stimulated at the same time. The g-spot is in the front wall of the vagina, and when it's stimulated, you can feel it -- like a little bump. Very gentle soft stimulation is enough. In my experience, while I often have multiple g-spot orgasms, they feel differently from clitoral orgasms and they, alone, are not as satisfying as a good clitoral orgasm, but the two together -- are awesome.
Really? LOL! First of all...Glands don't hold that much liquid. Let me clarify. When you have heart burn for instance, one can create a lot of saliva. I mean a lot. I speak from severe experience. But I digress. The difference is, whether saliva or natural vaginal lubrication, Its not "watery like". The closest gland for that liquid is the tear duct. Furthermore, a gland can't produce that much liquid in one fell swoop. Not to mention over and over. Really, you can't argue with biology. Show me a picture of the anotomy of a woman that shows this "Gland"... I still giggle as I write this. YOU ARE PEEING ON YOUR MATE!!!!! EEEWWWWWWWWWWW. My email to recieve this "picture"..chuckle, chuckle is Splinterb1@yahoo.com.
I am 47 married for 22 years. My husband and I have always had a great sex. I my husband is very attentive and I have always had multiple orgasms. For the last 2 months that has changed. I get almost to the point of climax and the orgasm just dies. What is wrong with me and how can it be fixed. I cannot imagine going through the rest of my life like this.
Frustrated
Dear frustrated. are you losing your climax during intercourse? If so, have him give you one orally a few times. Make it all about you, then him. Even have him do it orally with a dildo/vibrator inside you.
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