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Penis Size: Genetically Robbed?
I had never heard the term "genetically robbed" until I came across it in a post on the Sex Matters Message Board. Had I continued to live in San Francisco these last ten years, I might have heard it used, but life in the suburbs of Sacramento was a bit more tame and hadn't brought it to my attention. Once I decoded it from the context of the post, I thought, "Hmmm...a new way to slam men. Will it ever end?"
Most women who really like sex tend not to care much at all about penis size. They tend to emphasize how a man uses his body with her and how he treats her in the building up to being sexual -- things that he can completely control, unlike the size of his penis and the size of his feet.
I also think sometimes a woman who isn't very sexually experienced, who expects to orgasm from intercourse alone, or who believes that intercourse is the only "real" sex, might hold a mistaken thought that size is important and possibly imperative to her sexual functioning. Lacking knowledge of their bodies and sexuality, they may be grasping at straws to figure out why they're not orgasmic or don't particularly enjoy "sex." In that case, it's information that they need. They need to learn more about how their bodies work and expand their picture of what is "sex." It's a lot more than just intercourse. And still, size does not predict a woman's fulfillment with intercourse.
I honestly think that women sometimes look for ways to be critical of men -- particularly in the areas that seem like vulnerable spots for men. I think that this desire to be critical comes from anger at men -- often over issues that have little or nothing to do with sex. But, most women understand that many men do have concerns about the size of their penis, so they sometimes exploit that concern.
So, I can just picture how this latest phrase about being "genetically robbed" could make its way into contemporary cultural lingo. It's unfortunate and unnecessary, and not helpful nor kind -- but there it is.
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Most women who really like sex tend not to care much at all about penis size. They tend to emphasize how a man uses his body with her and how he treats her in the building up to being sexual -- things that he can completely control, unlike the size of his penis and the size of his feet.
I also think sometimes a woman who isn't very sexually experienced, who expects to orgasm from intercourse alone, or who believes that intercourse is the only "real" sex, might hold a mistaken thought that size is important and possibly imperative to her sexual functioning. Lacking knowledge of their bodies and sexuality, they may be grasping at straws to figure out why they're not orgasmic or don't particularly enjoy "sex." In that case, it's information that they need. They need to learn more about how their bodies work and expand their picture of what is "sex." It's a lot more than just intercourse. And still, size does not predict a woman's fulfillment with intercourse.
I honestly think that women sometimes look for ways to be critical of men -- particularly in the areas that seem like vulnerable spots for men. I think that this desire to be critical comes from anger at men -- often over issues that have little or nothing to do with sex. But, most women understand that many men do have concerns about the size of their penis, so they sometimes exploit that concern.
So, I can just picture how this latest phrase about being "genetically robbed" could make its way into contemporary cultural lingo. It's unfortunate and unnecessary, and not helpful nor kind -- but there it is.
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49 Comments:
Hey Doctor,
I actually have a question for you but I had no idea where to put it so I put it on a post on the messege boards. Its entitled Possibility of pregnancy. Could you help me?? :)
Hey.
I would preferably like a lisenced doctor to answer this question.
My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and 9 months now and we often engage in, um, somewhat sexual activities. My questions are, (1)If a slight amount of seminal fluid (Pre ejaculate) comes into contact with the front of her vagina what are the chanses of her getting pregnant?. I never actually inserted myself into her at all and I kept whiping it off :P too. (2)Also does the hymen aid in preventing the passage of semen? (3) What is the best time in her cycle to engage in this sort of activity in order to have the least chance of "something" happening. Both of us are virgins and I would never dream of taking that away from her or atleast without her concent. I have a great deal of respect for her and I love her verry much. We have a very close relationship.
P.S She took a shower and washed herself off just incase of anything lol
Any advise you might be able to give?
hey doctor i have loose skin around the shaft of my penis and i was circumsized. so i was wordeing is that from too much masterbation or can it be tightened natualy. if so how?
Hey Doctor,
I think size really doesnt matter provided it isn't rediculous one way or the other. Please tell us what average size is.
Hi Doctor,
I have question regarding penis enlargment pills, I have seen add on the tv went on their website alot of questions has been answerd, but since i take priscription drug (Fluoxetine) 10 mg tablet I want to know if its realiable to take these kind of pills while taking (Fluoxetine)??, I'm 25 years old I really need some advice.
Thank You.
Doctor i would like to know if a girl can get pregnant from masturbating. About 5 months ago me and a girl messed around. She "jacked me off" and i ejaculated. I would like to know that if after i ejaculated and she wiped off all the sperm could she get pregnant, even if the excess sperm dried, if she went to her house about 10 min later and masturbated could she get pregnant?
anonymous,
If sperm enters the vagina, there's a possibility of pregnancy.
You can learn more by trying a search on WebMD.
Hey Doc,
I think your article on penis size is right on. I have been overwieght but physically fit most my life. When I was young, penis size was an issue because it was said that fat men had small penises. However, I learned early on from a few satisfied partners that I was complete normal and an excellant lover.
2.7 aroused?Don't believe it!
haijwrI have noticed that my husband now closes the door when if has to urinate. I have also noticed that he tends to urinate everywhere but in the toilet. He is 53 years old and yes he is overweight and very selfconscious about it. Also his penis has seem to have inverted inward. What is going on? i might also add that he is on testosterone IM inj. for low energy
i am 37 years old i got 3 children. i am having pain after sex or after sperm come out 2 or 3 days paining when sperm come whats the ploblem dr.?
This is in response to "Hey". 1)As for the "chances" of getting pregnant, this is a statistical inquiry. I don't know that there are any reliable statistics to answer the "probability" of pregnancy. That being said, any time any quantity of seminal fluid comes into contact with the vagina you run the "risk" of pregnancy. Pre-ejaculate often contains spermatozoa which can lead to insemination. 2) The hymen does not prevent the passage of sperm (semen). 3) Now I can give you some statistics:) Generally speaking, A woman's fertile period during her menstrual cycle, on average, lasts about seven days: seven days before ovulation (the release of the egg), the day of ovulation, and the day after ovulation. After this, chances of conception decrease quickly, as the egg has a short life-span of about 24 hours. This having been said, please be advised that pregnancy can occur on ANY day of the month though the "chances" are more/less on certain days.
Hi doc. My son is 5 months old and it seems that his penis is inverted. It does come "out of it's shell" occasionally. It's just really weird looking. The peditrician hasnt said anything about it but i'm hoping it's not a cause for plastic surgery when he's older. Do most infants grow out of this?
Hey Doc,
My 12 year old appreoached me and told me that he was worried about the size of his penis, he told me that after changing his 2 years old brothers diaper that he realized that he was not much bigger. I tried to reassure him that during puberty he will grow. However he is very small and in truth his younger brother is about the same size as him. Is this a sign of something I should address or leave it be, and it will grow during puberty?
hello doctor!! I am a 19 year old male!! my qustion is regarding about my penis angle. My penis is about 30 degrees right from the stomach during the erection. Is it normal?
Hey Doctor,
i have been having this wierd problem of my penis retracting into my body. i have no pain or any other symptons, it sometimes is testicles and all but here lately just the penis is all that retracts. i have a slight caving in of the skin around the base of my penis as well against my body when the penis is not retracting into my body it seems to not be coming all the way back to its normal size. although everything still works right. please please help me with this problem and tell me what i should do. thanks....
My son is almost 11 years old and his penis looks inverted, like the size of an infant. His testicals look normal size, what is wrong with hime?
Hi doctor When i am having sex with my wife when i start sex with her she is just sleeping and when she is in mood and when i am through my sex and what to do about this ,then she start and i am a sleep can you please mail me on my private mail xyz.51@rediffmail.com and tell me what to do or give some tablet name so i can have sex for nearly half and hour so we both can enjoy sex otherwise we are going long from each other it is a private.
hi my penis is way under normal what can i do its 3in
Hi Doctor,
My huband has a problem keeping an erection during sex. He says he wants to but can't. He also sometimes feels a pulling in his penis and it inverts. is this normal? He is 31 years old and this started about a year ago. He was tested for all kinds of stuff and his doctor says there isn't any wrong but it keeps happening. Any advise?
i'm a fourteen year old male and i need a bigger penis in order to accompany the depth of my gf's vagina wat can i do to increase mi size
THIS IS FOR THE MAN WITH 3 INCH PENIS. i AM NOT SURE ABOUT YOU, BUT MY PARTNERS ARE SATISFIED EVEN THOUGH i AM NOT THAT LARGE. YES, SOME DO LIKE A LARGE PENIS BETTER. SOME LIKE THE SMALLER BETTER, ALSO! SURPRISED? WE ARE ALL HUMANS WITH SAME LIKE BODIES. THE FEMALE IS THE COUNTER PART TO THE MALE. GOD HAS MADE WOMEN WHO HAVE SMALL BODIES, THAT ARE HURT BY LARGE GENITALS. ALL WOMEN WHO LIKE LARGER PENISES, IS NOT GOING TO DUMP YOU NECCASARILLY IF YOUR SMALL. THAT MAY BE TRUE FOR A SMALL PERCENTAGE, BUT MOST WOMEN FALL FOR A MAN, NOT HIS PENIS. I HAVE BEEN WITH BLACK WOMEN, AND I AM A SMALL PENISED WHITE MAN. THEY WERE USED TO TALL THICK BROTHERS, I AM A SHORT THIN WHITE BOY. ONE GIRL WAS ANGRY WHEN I STOPPED, SHE WAS ABOUT TO CLIMAX. SHE SAID, FOR A LITTLE MAN YOU SURE CAN MOVE.
THIS IS FOR "POSSIBILITY OF PREGNANCY" YES, SHE CAN VERY MUCH GET PREGNANT FROM PRE-EJACULATE IT CONTAINS SPERM. THE CHANCES ARE ACTUALLY LESS, HOWEVER THE WASHING OF THE AREA IS DANGEROUS BECAUSE IF SHE GETS THE WATER INSIDE THE VAGINA IT COULD STILL SWIM UP THE STREAM. STANDING UP WILL NOT STOP HER FROM BECOMMING IMPREGNATED. THE SPERM NO WHERE THE ARE GOING, NO MATTER WHICH WAY YOU POINT THEM. BY THE WAY, WEAR DO THE TWO OF YOU GET YOUR INFORMATION ON SEX. VIRGINITRY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE HYMEN. IF YOU ARE HAVING YOUR GENITALS TOUCH, EVEN WITH THE INTACT HYMEN YOU ARE HAVING SEX. SEX IS THE ACT OF STIM ULATION TO THE POINT OF ORGASM BETWEEN TO PEOPLE. SORRY, NEITHER OF YOU IS A VIRGIN ANY MORE. WHAT WERE YOU THINKING, IT ISN'T SEX UNLESS I GO ALL THE WAY IN? ORAL SEX IS STILL SEX! GOOD GRIEF PEOPLE WILL TRY ANYTHING TO JUSTIFY THEIR SELVES. ANAL SEX IS SEX STILL TOO EVEN BETWEEN A MAN AND WOMAN.
i got a 6 n a hafe in' penis will it get bigger
and is that big
Is anal sex bad for you?
Well, I have a question actually. Embarrassing as it is to me, I wanted to know, but couldn't work up the courage to ask my own Doctor. I'm just about to be 18, and well, outside of having an erection, my penis seems as some have described it as..."Inverted". I don't completely understand, and it makes me self conscious around girls in my school. I can flirt, but the fear of them seeing me like that is overwhelming. Though, the odd part is, when I have an erection, I'm about 5 and a half inches. I haven't checked in a while, but that was basically my size. If it's normal, than damn, but if there is something I can do to maybe...un-invert it? Thanks for the time.
My problem is a little diff. I have a large penis (I'm told) 7.5 long and nearly 7 around - problem is it gets hard very easy and sometimes when I dont want it to. Like if I see a very pretty girl and focus for more than a few seconds it will start to grow and then there is no stopping it. What should I do? I've considered masterbating every morning before leaving for work but seems crazy to do that. Also if I do I have a dribble issue for the next hour. Thoughts?
Another person had the same question as I. Is it normal for a 6 month old boy to have what looks like an inverted penis?
my 11 yr old sone has a small penis almost as if it stopped growing he has always been a bit on the heavy side but now that he is getting older the effects of knowing his oenis is smaller then the other boys his age is having an effect on him he often says mom i'm noy like the other boys I have noticed that my 6yr old nephew's penis is larger I'm not sure where to start please any suggestions would be appreciated
Hi my 12 year old son already has a 8 incher and i need to ask Will it get bigger during puberty or is he already going through puberty.
um i need a bigger penis. . .help me. . .please. . .and um i am so not trying to be rude but i can't help but asking. . . . . .how would you know your 12 year old son has an 8 inch penis?
hey doc,
my question is like a few others, my 10 yr old son has an "inverted" penis. he was born with a descended testicle and had surgery at 18 months old, but now, its like it isnt growing. does this have anything to do with it? is there something that can be done? and, should i be concerned??
hi doc i got a question im 17 an me an my gf of a couple months had sex she was on top of me when i ejaculated an some of my fluids came out of her vagina an i was wondering could she be pregnant
My problem is a little diff. I have a large penis (I'm told) 7.5 long and nearly 7 around - problem is it gets hard very easy and sometimes when I dont want it to. Like if I see a very pretty girl and focus for more than a few seconds it will start to grow and then there is no stopping it. What should I do? I've considered masterbating every morning before leaving for work but seems crazy to do that. Also if I do I have a dribble issue for the next hour. Thoughts?
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I am a 14 year old male and I have the same things happening, well, this is 100% normal, but what I do when I get a random erection is just sit, breathe deeply and relax, and I try not to let my penis get any type of physiscal stimulation. hope this helps, else you'll just have to try to enjoy it :D it's a normal thing for us :).
ps. masterbating in the morning could help by..umm..well, releasing the erection, I'm nor sure if I'm using the right words, but hope this also helps.
is 5.5 a normal size?
hello dr. i am 25 yrs old.actually my thing is, got recently married. before marriage i never done hmt and sex with girl.but i used to see blue films 3 to 4 time in a weak for last 10 yrs and used to ejaculate my seminal fluid. because of that my penis size has come down to 2 inches as compare to earlier.if it gets erection it comes to 5 and half inches. 1)I want to know that is there any problem on this to get child from my wife? 2) how about my seminal fluid qulity?
hi i am 27 years old.....
my penis size is 7".. i just want to no that is it normal.. ??? am getting maried nxt month..... and i am little bit scared.. PLS reply......... need all of ur help and comment......
my mail ID is : chotophutochai@yahoo.com
My problem is a little diff. I have a large penis (I'm told) 7.5 long and nearly 7 around - problem is it gets hard very easy and sometimes when I don't want it to. Like if I see a very pretty girl and focus for more than a few seconds it will start to grow and then there is no stopping it. What should I do? I've considered masturbating every morning before leaving for work but seems crazy to do that. Also if I do I have a dribble issue for the next hour. Thoughts?
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I am a 14 year old male and I have the same things happening, well, this is 100% normal, but what I do when I get a random erection is just sit, breathe deeply and relax, and I try not to let my penis get any type of physical stimulation. hope this helps, else you'll just have to try to enjoy it :D it's a normal thing for us :).
PS. masturbating in the morning could help by..umm..well, releasing the erection, I'm nor sure if I'm using the right words, but hope this also helps.
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I have the same problem as you both. But, what if you can't sit down? What if you are waiting in line? Are there any mental ways to... keep it down?
Thanks,
BaNKz
Doctor, My boyfriend also has the same problem as previously stated with thin skin under the tip of his penis. In the past year of our relationship, he has had problems with it hurting during intercourse. The thin skin scabs, and last time we had intercourse, it started bleeding and we had to stop. We try to give it time to heal, but it never fully heals. Is there anything we can do to help the healing process? Please... I miss my intimate relationship!!!
Hi doctor,
I'm a 21 years old female. When I've sex with my boyfriend, I'll tend to touch his penis. It is soft but small(5inches only) I got horny each time after I saw him masturbates. Am I normal?
Stop worrying your all normal some have long penises and some have short ones, it's not the size that counts it's how you use it guys. Get the girl warmed up so she's ready for action and she won't care what size you are.
where the heck can i see the answers to these questions?
If you have a comment about this blog post, you are in the right place. However, if you have a question for one of our health experts or wish to talk with other members, please visit the appropriate message board. If your question is urgent, you should of course consult your own physician.
Tho those who are worried about your sons' penis sizes. Penises don't begin to grow until boys hi puberty and continue to grow until they are about 16 years old. So yes, your 11 year old's penis will be about the same size as your 11 month old's penis.
I have a very nice sized penis, dont know the exact measures, but i also have a skin bridge becaue i was circumcized as a child. The skin bridge not only looks unappealing, but it hurts when errect and slightly curves my penis to the side that the skin bridge is on.
What are your thoughts on traction devices? I've been thinking about ordering one after seeing this video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=br8IoLiVnAE
It's supposedly 100% effective - would you recommend it?
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HI doctor,
I am 15 years old this year and my penis 3'when soft and 4.2'erect. For me, i think it's slightly small and may i know when only it will grow.
this is not a place to get your questions answered. there is a blog for questions. this is a place to comment about the article. just an FYI, not upset or anything.
Hi i am 14 years old. i have a 6.5 inch penis. i need to know if this is normal for my age and if i am done growing or if i will continue to grow. thanks
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