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Penis Size or Prowess: Which Matters More?
Penis size has been mistakenly equated with sexual prowess in our culture. Interestingly, this mistake is made by men more often than by women. Many myths exist about the relationship between penis size and other parts of a man's body, such as feet, nose, and fingers. Jokes about penis size abound but they have no meaning. That's because, simply put, size has little to do with sexual satisfaction or manliness. Yet, it is sometimes difficult to convince some people that this is so.
Some people have thought that large penises are more psychologically arousing than smaller penises. To my knowledge, only one study in 1983 by William Fisher and others (Journal of Sex Research, volume 19) has studied the influence of penis length on sexual arousal. Although the male and female subjects in this study were clearly aroused by the erotic stories they were given to read, there was no relationship between the degree of arousal and the size of the penises described in the stories.
If you want to convince yourself of the sexual importance of large penises, no doubt you could collect a group of sexual partners who were highly attracted to penises of a certain dimension. And, while there's no denying that a turn-on is a turn-on, I have always been amazed at the broad cultural acceptance of the tyranny of size when it comes to penises.
Two things are often forgotten when it comes to heterosexual penile-vaginal intercourse. First, the vagina is a very elastic environment through which a baby can pass, yet it's one that easily retains a tampon. In other words, it snugly accommodates whatever it surrounds. Second, about three-quarters of women don't reach orgasm by intercourse in the "Look, no hands" manner, no matter the size of the inserting object. They need direct clitoral stimulation.
There's a familiar saying, "It's not the meat, it's the motion." This captures the essence of sexual turn-on for both men and women -- unless they're into collecting people merely for their trophy potential. And if that's all there is, the eroticism often wears off pretty quickly.
People who do the following experiment can gain valuable insight. Take several dildos of different sizes and insert them while blindfolded. See if you can detect the difference between five and seven inches (the penile dimensions that include most of mankind).
Many men feel quite content with the size of their penis when erect, but are uncomfortable with it when flaccid. Some of their anxiety might be relieved if they knew the following: penises that appear small when flaccid grow a great deal more in size when erect than those that are larger when flaccid. Sex researchers, Paul Jamison and Paul Gebhard analyzed the Kinsey data on erect and flaccid penises to arrive at this conclusion (Journal of Sex Research, 1988, volume 24). So, in today's language, there are "growers" (those that gain size when erect) and "showers" (those that get erect, but with little change in size).
Many men would also feel less concerned about locker room impressions if they understood that just as a man's sense of smell or his eyesight are not dependent on the size of his nose and eyes, respectively, neither is his sexual capacity based on the size of his genitals.
Still, there may be reason to explore old psychological issues or insults that may influence a man to have concern about penis size. Therapy can be very helpful -- especially if he has feelings that he'd like to change.
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Some people have thought that large penises are more psychologically arousing than smaller penises. To my knowledge, only one study in 1983 by William Fisher and others (Journal of Sex Research, volume 19) has studied the influence of penis length on sexual arousal. Although the male and female subjects in this study were clearly aroused by the erotic stories they were given to read, there was no relationship between the degree of arousal and the size of the penises described in the stories.
If you want to convince yourself of the sexual importance of large penises, no doubt you could collect a group of sexual partners who were highly attracted to penises of a certain dimension. And, while there's no denying that a turn-on is a turn-on, I have always been amazed at the broad cultural acceptance of the tyranny of size when it comes to penises.
Two things are often forgotten when it comes to heterosexual penile-vaginal intercourse. First, the vagina is a very elastic environment through which a baby can pass, yet it's one that easily retains a tampon. In other words, it snugly accommodates whatever it surrounds. Second, about three-quarters of women don't reach orgasm by intercourse in the "Look, no hands" manner, no matter the size of the inserting object. They need direct clitoral stimulation.
There's a familiar saying, "It's not the meat, it's the motion." This captures the essence of sexual turn-on for both men and women -- unless they're into collecting people merely for their trophy potential. And if that's all there is, the eroticism often wears off pretty quickly.
People who do the following experiment can gain valuable insight. Take several dildos of different sizes and insert them while blindfolded. See if you can detect the difference between five and seven inches (the penile dimensions that include most of mankind).
Many men feel quite content with the size of their penis when erect, but are uncomfortable with it when flaccid. Some of their anxiety might be relieved if they knew the following: penises that appear small when flaccid grow a great deal more in size when erect than those that are larger when flaccid. Sex researchers, Paul Jamison and Paul Gebhard analyzed the Kinsey data on erect and flaccid penises to arrive at this conclusion (Journal of Sex Research, 1988, volume 24). So, in today's language, there are "growers" (those that gain size when erect) and "showers" (those that get erect, but with little change in size).
Many men would also feel less concerned about locker room impressions if they understood that just as a man's sense of smell or his eyesight are not dependent on the size of his nose and eyes, respectively, neither is his sexual capacity based on the size of his genitals.
Still, there may be reason to explore old psychological issues or insults that may influence a man to have concern about penis size. Therapy can be very helpful -- especially if he has feelings that he'd like to change.
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98 Comments:
I can agree my husband has a nice size penis but he doesn't get aroused easily I usually have to physically touch him and rub him to get him to get hard. I don't know why but he just isn't like any other man I have been with (this being my 2nd marriage) I always tell him he's not normal he says he's turned on but his body doesn't react like most men.
confused but ok
Very informative post and hope it's going to clear a lot of peoples doubts about the size. Well there are lot of people who might not said about it for them this post is the answer.
Some people gripe when theyre hung (no pun intended) with a new rope...actually HANGED with a new rope...Psychological and physiological conditions can affect erections...are you being empathetic to your husbands difficulty or are you adding to that performance anxiety...
BEEN THERE, DONE THAT
Some people gripe when theyre hung (no pun intended) with a new rope...actually HANGED with a new rope...Psychological and physiological conditions can affect erections...are you being empathetic to your husbands difficulty or are you adding to that performance anxiety...
BEEN THERE, DONE THAT
My husband gets a erection but he never ejaculates and it's very tring for me. What can be causing this problem?
The problems that I have found, unfortunately this is my third marriage, I don't like divorce, but I am happier now than I've been, in so very long; but I've been with diabetics the last 10 years - that's where I'm relating with you.... The problems ejaculating seems to be prolifec there, and also as they get older. I would check into the diabetic issue first, that would be the first sign to me, work on that issue and you will both be able to find so much more pleasure, I assure you then with love and patience it can all come together!
Thank you for your comment. However he's young I'm thinking maybe it just pure enegry and I should have understanding and patience and love it will come together. But I was concerned that it could be a medical problem. If anyone could let me know please reply Thank-you
Some women may disagree, but I actually wish my partner had a smaller penis. He's 23 years older than me, I'm 31 and hi is too large for me. I love him dearly but by the time it takes for him to ejaculate it's very uncomfortable for me. I want to please him but I'm not a big women and he's a very large man, especially his penis 9+ . I'm not sure what else I can do about this? I feel I'm too small for him, he tries not to force himself too deep but then he's caught up in the moment and can not control it and this causes me a lot of pain. I'm at a lost here, what makes it worse is he would like sex every night but when I don't and it's been a while, actually makes this much worse than if I had just given in to every time he wants it because he really seems he can't control himself because to him it's been too long since we last had sex.
How long have you been together. I have experienced the saying that when you are with a man for a long time your body adjust to his size. I have been married to my second husband who is 10 yrs younger then me for almost 2 yrs and he is large and my body has adjusted to his size.
Ah I suspect the worry about penis size goes back to the cave man days. Old Alley Oop was probably envious of the size of the dongs on the dinasaurs you know. Maybe Adam was the only guy in the history of the universe who didn't suffer from "penis envy". Woody Allen jokes about him being the only GUY who suffers from "penis envy" but I suspect most of us men suffer, even if we won't admit it. I went to high school in the 1950's and their were locker jokes about it then...and probably long before. A true sign of maturity is when you stop worrying about how long your weenie is. At 66 I'm ALMOST there! Cheers!
My Fiancee has a very nice size. The problem we have is getting him aroused. One night at the dinner table I had to rub his penis to be able for him to erect an hour later. Im so tired of doing that. WHat's gonna happen when we get married?
Seriously you are worried about having to 'rub' your man too much to arouse him? This is the exact same problem most men have with women...needing too much stimulation for arousal. It is mostly mentioned that a man is ready to go in a few seconds and is insensitive to a womans need for more touching. Are you ready for sex in a few second or do you linger on it for awhile then decide to start touching him? If this really is a bother to you, have him consult with a doctor, maybe he has a health issue, or maybe he's just modest.
I wanted to say that I do agree that size doesn't matter.But.... I won't agree to that 100%. Once upon a time, I had a boyfriend who was 3" long.
And this was being erected.
I really couldn't feel a thing during sex. This man was 6 Feet tall. I never said a word about it. As you can see we are no longer together. Can some men really be that small?
Is there anything they can do? Like us women with no breast, we get breast implants. Sweet guy that's all I could say.
I am happy that someone else agrees on this topic...I try to explain to my husband that it REALLY DOES NOT matter the size of his penis, he is sized just right for me ! Hopefully he will realize it one day, I don't know how many times I am going to have to tell him though !!!
To some degree I feel that penis size is not strictly, "Bigger is better." But I must say that, talking to women, "Bigger is better A LOT OF THE TIME" The truth is (men know it, and women who enjoy intercourse know it), it feels good to be filled out by a larger penis. A large penis is particularly capable of rubbing against the labia. This rubbing causes a "tugging" of the clitoris. Also, a long penis can push the cervix GENTLY and cause a full-body incredible "cul-de-sac" orgasm. This kind of orgasm is much more intense, women say, than a clitoral orgasm. And it happens when you have a long penis (7, 8 or more inches) rest against but push gently against the cervix. (Note--cervix contact must be gentle). NONE of this is possible with even an average penis. Again, according to women's reports, this is possible with a penis of about 7 inches (no less) or larger (8 inches sometimes, but not longer), and preferably about 6" in circumference (average is 5" circumference). but onl;y about 10% of men have penises like this!! So a lot of women NEVER have this experience. The women that have had sex with men who had big penises are the women who report that bigger is better. Note that it's not so much denied now that "Girth" is what matters (which is just another way of admitting that, yes, size matters!).
It's not good to keep promoting the myth that size matters only to a few women, or that size does not matter because the vagina expands to whatever size penis the man has.
The verdict is coming in more and more often as women gain freedom to enjoy sex that larger-than-average penises can feel better, that many women get a better feeling---actually feel something----with a large penis.
It seems like women do not forget the guys with big ones! These women covet them and share their "big" stories with other women at work. I have heard them talk (raises the hair on my neck as a man!). Also, women who find big guys are often envied by their women friends. They say, "Oh, wow, you are so lucky that he's so big!" Haven't you heard grandmothers and mothers sometimes say about their baby boys (if they have large penises), "Well, he'll make some woman very happy when he grows up."
The large penises get an "Oh" reaction when they enter the vagina. When women scream during sex (in a good way), they do so when their lover is big, not with an average or smaller penis!!! Now, the average and smaller ones can be great, "If he knows how to use it." Big guys do not need to know how. And sometimes big guys who ignore technique lose out---they're not good lovers. but big guys who DO know how to use their large penises beat all others!
Even in this culture where we feel we are free to admit what we like, THIS IS TABOO to admit!!!! To say that 85% of men (not large) fall short of being able to create that great vaginal sensation for women sounds wrong of course, and maybe even outrageous. But it's true! That rare fraction of men, "Big" men, the 10% out there, do not have to work hard to give pleasure. Nor do they have to be skilled with their tongues or hands. Nor do they have to be particularly nice to get asked back into bed!
I know this sounds awful. But it's worse to keep denying it. We've always known this, but the male ego is injured by this. Or, 90% of them are. The 10% of men who are big either brag (obnoxious) or just smile and know what they have, and their women know, too, and call them after they break up!!
It's not all negative here. The good news: women ARE capable of accepting a less-than-big penis if the guy has other good features. Men need to accept that this is true.
I'd just like to thank billsavio for not allowing political correctness to stand in the way of the truth. It's okay ladies, we know you'll ditch a smaller guy for a bigger one any day of the week, so stop thinking you're sparing our feelings (you're not) and just be honest for once.
I find this old subject has not changed since I was in school about 44 years ago. I consider myself a average sized man. Never had a problem with my sexual partners. I agree with the good doctor, it more about technique and having feelings for the woman, and being attentive to her needs that are the most important. As far as needing to reach the cervix, I have been able to do that, but the women did not experience anything better because of it.Regarding adjusting to a large penis, I think that might be true up to a point, keeping in mind that the entrance to the vagina is a muscle that extends down and around the anus. And any muscle can become slacken,if not excercised, to the point that even a very large penis would be lost inside. Also keeping in mind that different women have different sized vagina's, some are longer than others, therefore, a longer penis is not needed, if it is the intent to reach the bottom. And you can't tell by the shape of the woman on the outside, what size she might be on the inside.
Most if not all the women that I have been with, preferred and always achived an organism from direct or indirect stimulation of their clitoris. Not many nerve's inside.
Besides if bigger is better I wonder how many women have a fantastic organism when giving birth??
"Reality check"
The secret is your tongue ,guys.Nothing feels better than your warm tongue sucking and licking her clitoris at same time, when she comes put your index and middle fingers in ,rubbing and stroking agaisnt the wall of her vagina ,more on the front part 2 inches inside where the G spot is, finally put your penis in with quick stroke.When you come withdraw and come on her chest,rub it on her breasts.No matter the size of your penis you just gave her the mind blowing sex.
I think that size definitly matters. My husband is 8 1/2 inches and it hurts so bad when we have sex that we can only do it missionary style. Even that hurts if he's not capable of being gentle and not going in to far. I have always been small in that region and it makes life difficult. One of my sons was average as a baby, and my other is huge. Although both had comments made by nurses about their sizes. It's hard to judge when I only know my two little boys, but I would think nurses would know.
What is a good or preferable penis size? Most girls that I have hung around that had multiple sex parters said that they did not prefer too large or larger than normal (Average) penis. They would complain that it was more painful than pleasurable. They did say that it was a little more arousing to see the a Large penis, but thats where it stopped. The women that say they enjoy or prefer a Large penis most likely have had Alot of sex with that partner that has the Large penis or with multiple other partners. I do believe that the vagina is elastic and can adapt to many sizes but not all, and thats why some women like it big and some don't. To the guy or women who wrote #16. The stories I have heard from women is that the guy with the larger than average penis has to concentrate more on not hurting the women than making her feel good. But then again, not every woman is the same.
women have it pretty good small breasts = implants . guy small penis = nothing. where's the research, what is the medical field doing about it? do they care? quality of life greatly affected for man with small penis
Off course, none of that really matters. If you've recently became a new daddy and your sex life has been put on hold indefinitely. Are you feelin me new dadda’s?
2 inches or 25 inches, your boxers don't giva a dam :)
It all comes down to preference, all women are different, well at least most are. my last girlfriend, said I was thick enough, but not long enough, she prefers length. all my other lovers, didn't complaint. I'm 6 x 5, cut, average size. some men are smaller than me, why?, am I complaining. Think about it ladies, if u made a list of the ten most important thing's to u, in a relationship, penis size better be # 9 or 10, or not even on the list, tell me ladies, what do u think about this statement?
I completely disagree with this article.
As a woman who has had intercourse with quite a few men, I can say, without equivocation, bigger is better!
Indeed, some smaller men can compensate, but when it comes down to it it just is what it is.
The feeling of being "filled" is incredible. All my freiends agree, bigger is just a physchological turn-on. Asthetically, bigger is huge turn-on too.
Sorry, smaller men, but this girl says bigger is better!
I found out something that may shock some(men)who read this. For years my penis seemed a little above the normal ranges in length and girth. But I had a kidney stone remove and lo and behold, within about a month my penis increased in length and size both when flacid and during erection. I would estimate an increase of 2-3 inches in length and girth. "Why?" Maybe someone could explain it. I can't, but I will say this, my wife can't seem to keep her hands off it and likes to pat the front of my pants several times a day. Strange?
I have always felt my size was inadeqate although I am average size. My wife says I'm fine for her, but I know she is only trying to not hurt me. I have learned to satisfy her with my hands and with oral sex except she usually will not let me do that although I like it and am very good at it. Our best sex is always just slow senuous foreplay.When she wants to be satisfied(about half the time she dont)we just have foreplay and I'll massage her clit and g-spot at the same time, she will explode with three or four orgasms It turns me on so much I climax at the same time, our best sex usually doesnt include intercourse! The bed will be so wet you would think someone poured a half gallon of water on it. If I can hold out during this intense time and penetrate her with my penis she will hold me back and is uncomfortable with full penetration at first as if I were too big. However if she is not excited very much like for a quicky I never satisfy her with my penis. Except for maybe once or twice during anal intercourse which she loves but will not admit it and rarely ever does that anymore. We have been married 20 years.It amazes me that she still has a hard time communicating what she wants,she would much rather I just read her mind and do it. But Most of the time I cant. Men are eager to pleasure a woman to full satisfaction but you ladies have to guide us enough to know what does it for you. As for penis size,the good news for us average guys is there is only a few of the big ones so ladies know they have to accept you the way you are.Besides, the men that I know were big can not keep a woman for any length of time.So big may lure a curious girl in but it will not keep her. So men,learn how to pleasure her g-spot and whole body with lots of senuous touching,kissing,nibbling,licking ,sucking and massaging, I garantee she really won't care if you have a big one as long as you have a hard one !!!!!!!!!!!and focus on her not yourself !
I think this becomes an illness for us men, I have often wondered if I was big enough or else i wouldnt have looked this topic up. Athough I dont think that it really matters to us, if its big enough, just as long as we come, I say this because as men we want and need to fill like we're the alpha male in a pack. I mean come on guys, yeah its not an easy task getting down their as if shes a full course meal. Call me a pig, but it takes me a good fifteen min. to eat a full course meal, its takes her sometimes a good thirty min. To orgasm. I think its over rated and to often examand under a microscope.
There is truth in all the above, but like they say, different strokes for different folks. Have had both and an average guy who knows how to pleasure a lady is worth a dozen big sized pricks. Too many times men are in a hurry, slam bam thank u m'am. For those experiencing pain, your partners should take time caressing, fondling, exploring etc. females will never relax and enjoy when the fear of pain is a threat to sex. Annonymous I tip my hat to you, hope other men who fall short will take some tips from you. Matured women will agree it's more about the romancing than the penetration. Keep it up (no pun intended).Some large guys aiint got a clue what that thing is for.
The only time penis size mattersis if the fit isn't good.
If a man has too large a penis, he need only find a more accmodating woman. If his penis size is smaller than average in both length and girth, his woman will likely find better accmodations with another man.
It is far easier for a man who possesses an average or larger sized organ to find partners than it is for the guy "blessed" with an undersized unit.
It's just the way it is. It is no different than a man trying to compete in a 100 meter race when his overall height is only four feet and everybody else is five feet six inches tall or taller.
There are women who will settle for less, but it takes some effort to find them.
Being a woman, I have never had anyone with a large penis, only smaller ones. The guys who knew how to 'use it' are memorable but the ones who didn't do anything 'exciting' are not memorable. It's how you use it. I can't lie, I'd like to at least once try one of a larger size. I've not been blessed with the chance yet but for you guys who are a normal size, try things different, do exciting things and it won't be even noticed. For oral, normal is nice.
I was with a guy who had a 8-9 inch penis. If only size was what it took to get a girl off. It really isn't. Eager to do the deed, he rushed the process and it hurt EVERY TIME. I can't even tell you how many times I expressed to him the importance of foreplay and slowing down, but even foreplay was painful....a lot of jamming fingers resulting in uncomfortable tugging and pulling of my labia. He even made oral sex uncomfortable....maybe because everything was so raw fromt he painful things he was dong with his hands that by the time his mouth got there I wanted to cry, but also didn't want to hurt his feelings. As for actual intercourse...usually didn't do much for me, but hurt. Had I been adaquately aroused...who knows maybe I would enjoy his size more, but I never had that opportunity. The boy never made me cum in the three years we were having sex. For the first two years, he did't seem to really try, but due to increasing complaints from myself about bleeding and pain during and after intercourse...he tried...a little. His unusually large penis gave him absolutely no advantage over a smaller guy who knew how to focus on a girl's needs more than his own....because that's the only way you will ever get the girl to cum. Boys...work on her needs...you will more than likely cum regardless...she needs extra work, so show her you love her and work it!
I'm a single man and I believe that size does matter. I've been with women of all widths and there is nothing that I prefer more than a small tight vagina. It's the greatest feeling. Sorry wide girls.
i wish my husband had a smaller penis because he has a 12 in long penis and it hurts so much when he penetrates me
Okay, from all of these blogs with varying opinons, I think the real truth is clear: it is just a question of compatibility. Women's size varies just as much as men. We heard from the same number of women complaining about overly large penises as small ones. The trick is finding a partner who matches your size and being attentive to their needs.
True, some people may have any easier time finding a compatible partner than others. Such is the nature of the bell curve. But the most important thing to keep in mind is that diversity in size is normal, unavoidable and unchangeable. Stop obsessing about it, find someone compatible and do the best with what you got.
I'm just commenting on this so-called "Fact or Myth" of men's penis size. For the most part when i was married to my ex-wife, i encountered a relientless battle over the size of my penis, which to my superise was made known to me by her. often these event would occur when there was concerns of me being ivolved with other women and financial matters I felt insecure about my size for some time but, i could not understand why she would want to continue to give me sexual pleasure with something that could not pleasure her. I came to the conclusion that it was all about control almost 10 years later. She practice and was able control a situation if she poked fun of my size. For some reason i could still preform with her sexually up untill our divorce. I new one thing about her, she was able to control her vaginal muscles by squeezing them. To make a long and terrable story short, I suffared low self-asteem for almost 7 years after are break-up and i truly begain to hate women. although threw "on and off" relationships i encountered more women with like views on Big Vs Smaller penises. When these circumstances accured i would end the relaitionship suddenly with out explainations and venomiously Our paths cross again (ex-wife) and we Engaged in sex like it was before. allthough we did not get married again i knew she could accommidate my size, Because she develop the art of squeezing that area vaginal walls and all women can do it, but some are just plum lazy in sexual pleasuring and look for excuses in to control the man first in to proving them-selfs. My size is 5-1/2 to 6" at most fully errected 3"girth. I continue too feel situations like this as i felt about 18 years ago, if You women need big "Cocks" to Be pleased, Please don't waste a man's time and PocketBooks on something thats not going to get it. Honesty is the the Best policy i tell a women up front when the subject of sex is comming up. You do the same cause your playing with peoples feeling esspecially if he's thinking commeted or long term relationships. We all know that a women #1 & #2 intrests is not sex and love. It's not being without Etc. Financial Stability and Protector is #1 & #2. If you know in your heart that a man can become or be made too feel worthless in the bedroom than he would fail eventually in those roles witch are Routinely are at the forefront of which defineds a man. If a man feels less than a man then he is a yes Maam or wimp. and then he get ran over at the office and passed over for promotioms means less Cheese for your nest!!! I'f a women not satified with you dump her fast cause this a JeZZEbel. "a Devil" that where's Prada.
i need help for my very dear friend, she has fallen in love wiht a man that is wonderful to her and her 3 children. She recently tried to have sex with him for first time, she used lots of lube but he was too large and ripped her, is ther anything she can use to stretch her vagina?
The vast majority of American women are, basically, lazy in bed.
I'm 15 with a 7 inch penis that curves a little to the left.
is this size good for my age, and will the slight curve be good for sex later on in marriage?
To anonymous above:
Please read the post which you commented on. It has the answer to your question about size.
With regard to curvature, you might find this information to be helpful.
Our experts do not answer questions here on the blogs, but you're welcome to visit our message boards if you have other questions.
longer ones hurt women's cervix and cause inflammation and even bleeding over times. Choose short one guy for your marriage partner. Length doesn't matter at all as long as it is more than 4inches!!
is six inches considered big ladies?
Okay, So this is kind of about my husband.. But, more about my son. My husband is a very well "packaged" man. Thus being my first marriage, and first man I've been with. ( But I've told my g/f's about his package and they all have congratulated me ) Anyways.. Together we have 2 children. a 4 1/2 year old little girl. and a 2 month old son. ( This being the only other penis I've ever seen.. Thats right 2 penis' in my whole life lol ) Anyways, I took my son to his 2 month check up, and his doctor said his penis was very large for a baby so young.. I haven't measured it because that would just be very wrong, but I would guess to say its like 1.5inch.. to 2.0 inches.. And its seems that its all erect, when its not. I've seen it erect and It's just insane ! Everyone thinks I'm making a big deal about this and that its normal, but I talked to a few friends of mine that have sons and they all say that their sons weren't that big at 2 months. Its the WHOLE thing.. His Penis is large and his Testi's.I asked the doctor and she just said to me " Congratulations, He'll make his life partner very happy some day " What the heck ! Anyways, I just need some reassurance from people who wouldn't lie to me. lol
Thank you, ( please don't think I'm crazy! ) :-D
I am 80 years old and have just as much fun as the big guys.
So for you ladies who say bigger is better, what are those of us guys who are less than average supposed to do? We have what we have. I'm sure as hell not going to go without.
IF IT TAKES A BIG ONE TO KEEP HER HAPPY,SHE AINT WORTH KEEPING.
So for you ladies who say bigger is better, what are those of us guys who are less than average supposed to do? We have what we have. I'm sure as hell not going to go without.
I'm in the below average category myself and have found that we don't have much choice but to go without. No woman wants us.
My penis is 6 in long and 2 in width. Where would that place me?
To anonymous with 6" 2"circ:
Is this some kind of competition? Do you really measure? If you do, stop.
This is to all of you who are so worried and especially to the ones who think no woman will want you -- you're wrong, wrong, wrong.
Stop judging yourselves based on what you see on the porn sites and what you hear from other braggarts and consider your partner. Maybe even consider your relationship with your partner. Sex is more than the act -- the intimacy, the relationship, all of it counts. If you're busy measuring or dissing yourselves instead of working on building a relationship you're fooling yourself into thinking it's all about size.
^^^^^^ Needs to read some women's opinions on the matter and then get back with us.
As a guy I would suspect size doesn't matter as much as the rest of the package. When it comes to a woman's breast size, if she is fit and has small breasts, that's a turn on. If she's flabby with large breasts, not so much. A woman is more than breast size to me, so I would hope that I am more than penis size to my wife. As an average (or perhaps slightly less than average) size guy, I have learned not to even worry about it. I've never had trouble pleasing the women I've been with, so why stress?
After reading all of this, and applying what I knew about size vs performance in bed, I can say one thing is for sure.
Size is NOT 100% of the case, if you can be creative, spontaneous, but also sensetive and caring, you will make your girlfriend/wife a very very happy woman despite your size because just shoving it in and thrusting like a piston on nitrous is what an inconsiderate porn star does, not what a man who is in love with his partner does.
Women who only say size is better, obviously don't derive pleasure from all aspects of intercourse, and probably don't care to. While yes size can play a rather respectable role in pleasing her… Confidence, creativity, and just the overall respect of a woman and her body, and the understanding of what turns your partner on will be a much more valuable asset than a massive meat stick.
My ex-girlfriend is a pretty hard girl to get off, even she admitted one night, and for me to penetrate her and try to get her off that way was practically useless, even given she was a smaller girl(4’ 9”) and i was around 5 inches long and 2 in around, we found that two gentle fingers and a constantly vigilant mind attentive to her feelings always got her much more aroused than straight up penetration. This also applied to my 'going down on her,' because while a bigger penis CAN be nice I’m sure, she actually preferred me over her past partner who I paled in comparison to simply because I explored all aspects of intercourse and made it interesting each time.
I feel, as a guy though, that even if I am 'average,' I don't feel like it and I'm sure 80% of guys feel this way. HOWEVER! I also know that a man's creative mind is a much more powerful tool in sex than his package, because if you can find out what she likes and work off of that, you will be able to satisfy her night after night after night.
If a man still doesn't feel as though his penis is long enough or can't satisfy his partner, then rather than gripe about it or give up, try to go longer in bed, even if it means you climax twice. Simply stated, always put her feelings first; get your pleasure from giving her pleasure and you will both be a happy couple despite any 'physical difficulties' you may feel. Hopefully this clears up any misguided feelings amongst men, and hopefully this will help men who aren’t as ‘generously endowed’ in the pants understand that girls can be very satisfied by most sizes from 5 to 7 inches so long as you put to use more than just ‘Junior’.
Size can be a painful thing too. I'm above average size and my girlfriend is quite small. As we've gotten further and further into our relationship, I've noticed less and less of a sex drive from her. She enjoys intercourse once I'm 'in,' but it seems that even with an hour of foreplay and copious amounts of lube, insertion causes her enough pain to fear it, which ultimately leads to anxiety and a decreased libido. I'm not sure what to do. The thought of hurting her kills me and I know she's frustrated too. So far, we're thinking 1) different soap that might not dry things out down there so much. 2) undergarments that might help keep normal irritation to a minimum.
Any pointers from the petite girls with the big guys?
I had sex with many women and I can say from my expereince that penis size matters.My penis is six inch long and the girth is also five and half to six.After seeing my erect penis before the sex,the women always appreciate the size and some women had told me that they really like big things and seeing my erect one make them horny.What I observe is the chinese and philippino women has the craze for big penis.I think due to racial speciality they got tighter vagina and they like to slide in bigger penis in to it.
Recently I had sex with a chinese woman.I penis is six inch long and girth also almost same.After seeing my erect one,she went wild,put the KY jelly inside the vagina and sit on my top and had a vigourous sex until she was satisfied.She later told me ,while we were relaxing after the sex,that she very much like big penis and even though it is difficult to slide in (KY jelly helps)she thoroughly enjoyed the intercourse.
Problems ejaculating can be the result of anything from medications taken, a medical condition, anxiety or even just tiredness.
Most women don't realise that most times a man must use his stamina to actually bring himself to ejaculation. The exceptions are usually when he's not had an ejaculation for some time, or is overly sexually aroused.
The other possibility is that he did ejaculate, but didn't get the pleasure sensation from doing so - and therefore doesn't know he has.
Again medication, illness and tiredness are all possibilities, but more usually it's just something that happens every now and then. It isn't always world shattering for guys either, and that's perfectly normal. That wouldn't be a reflection on you or your sex, it just happens.
"I had a boyfriend who was 3" long.
And this was being erected.
I really couldn't feel a thing during sex...Can some men really be that small?"
...Yes, my husband was 3" erect and the best position for me was laying on our sides with me arching my back backwards; doing this felt WONDERFUL! Unfortunately, he was also lazy in bed, no foreplay, and only concerned with himself. I'm now with a man who (to me) seems HUGE and so I'm scared of being torn and so far it hurts and he can't get it in. But, he does other things to me that no man has ever done before, so I'd be willing to go down on him any time of the day or night, as often as he wanted, just to please him, because he's that sensitive to my feelings.
Hi I'm 13 years old and 8 1/2 - 9 in. by 6-7 in. will women laugh at me when I'm older, in bed.
joe,
I have had lots of experiences with different woman. I am an attractive man who also played in a band. Many, Many times girls would throw themselves at me. I always played very hard to get so the girls would really have to try. But unfortunately nearly every time i would give and have sex with someone new they where completely in shock i guess cause they got so worked up and then let down. I am only 5 1/4" long but even worse 1 1/4" thick. I was good in other ways but these girls just want intercourse. 5 or 10 mins then they wanted it in. Well as you could guess the problem didnt end with random girls. Most all of my girlfriends where very frustrated. Fore play, fingers and tongue just isnt all a girl wants. With on girl i was about to marry, we moved on to dildos which was her getting off then me jumping on top of her. For 2 years thats how we did it. the dildos did get bigger once she was comfortable. kinda real big 9 x 2.25. so i guess she had a big vagina. Well she had an affair with a 6'9" tall man who her friends said was hung. We split up and she married him. My soon to be new wife now 6 years later, well we had all kindsa problems. She was 17 when we met claimed to be 18 the whole first year. I was 25. we split up so many times and she would have her flings. We tried everything and nothing work for too long then we would split up. We really loved each other very, very much and she was totally in fear of being stuck the rest of her life with a guy that was hard to feel in bed. she was young and kept coming back. she want more then tongue and when i fingered her it quickly went up to 4 and a thumb. i couldve easily fisted her and that made her uncomfortable. She loved big dildos but that after a while was too fake to enjoy. With me and her if she squeezed as hard as she could neither of us could feel it close on me. She does keegle still and no luck with us. We are getting married next week. We got a 4 inch extra thick cyberskin extender that we use every time she wants to get off. She really tried to enjoy me. She really really tried. But sometimes its not that simple. Woman who like big ones may have wide Virginas and no matter how many times time strengthen their muscles a guy can be too skinny. she is very tiny as in skin and bones but her hips are like 38 inchs and she is 5'4". I think her big pelvic bone keeps her wider no matter what. Should we get married? I dont know but we have a 1 year old and were gonna try n make it work. There is ways around size issues this day and age. Its just if a couple can cope with the facts and accept the truth. So for me I know 100% that penis size matters a lot and even more sometimes. Thats not saying you cant get a person off by other means. I think mainly my worst issue was girth and short plus skinny is a very bad combo. woman take that size for a while then see if it dont. I am in the less that 5% as far as averages go. But Know knownig and learning all that i have with Who i am with I would not change a thing about myself. I a perfectly happy and thank god for my chance at life. Honesty is what is most important and for one article speaking for all of everyone can only be totally false.
This is to the person wondering why women have options about changing their breast size and tighening their vaginas.It does'nt seem fair I know, they can go to just about any crediable plastic surgeon to have these procedures, we on the other hand cannot, but all hope is not lost. I am rather small myself 5 3/4" erect. So I decided to start some research on the matter, thier is a surgeon with a practice in califonia and washington that specializes in penile enlargement.There are two types, the fat injection, that is where they remove fat from your buttox and inject into your penis, I personaly would;nt recomend it because it, because over time your body reabsorbes the fat,it last maybe a year or two, and here;s the best part the price is $8,000 The other procedure is completly permanent you can gain up to 3" in length and 1"in girth. they have bioengineered skin that they implant so there's no fear of you're body rejecting it.the procedure is very invasive because they must cut the penis on both sides from under the head to the base. they also make an insicion on the pubic bone in order to cut the tendon that holds your penis lenght, they aslo require after you're surgery to wear a weight several hours a day for a few months. here is the best part. the surgerys cost, $12,000. just how bad do you want to be bigger, and just so every one knows this doctor has done over 8,000 of these procedures.
Whats more important,length or girth? I have been with my wif 10 years, and i can usally always give her an orgasm,but it's usally with my finger while we do it. I am very self concious about my penis, It's only 5 1/2" long ,and looking down at it. it is 1 1/2" wide. my wife always tells me she likes it, but i know she never be brutaly honest with me. The reason is because she never makes comments about it like,(Oh!it's so big honey!)Even during sex.This is really bothering me. I would love for someone to just tell me the honest truth about my penis. I know it' not huge but is actually satisfactory? Please ladies if have been with men that are my size,i would love your input, because i am willing to fix it no matter what. I have even talked to a number of surgeons already.
I forgot to mention that alot of the time when we have sex i cannot feel her like I know I should be feeling her.I have even gone as far as buying a tightening cream, which really works, I couldnt beleive it, the only problem is that it wears off after about 5 or 10 minutes.Once again, I would really appreciate some feedback on my questions above this paragraph? thank you
I guess I must be one of the lucky 25% of women who has NO trouble having the big 'O' during intercourse. My husband isn't unusually large, I would say pretty average... and I would know because I used to work at the hospital and saw probably hundreds if not thousands of different men naked... most of them old (lucky me) and I noticed that everyone pretty much looked about the same size, ocassionally there would be a difference, smaller or larger. When you get so used to seeing people naked all you DO notice are the ones that look a little bigger or smaller. All in all I think size has little to do with sexual experience. My hubby and I have THE BEST sex life and I orgasm 80-90% of the time, I think if he knows what feels good for you and you know what feels good for you then it won't matter what size he is.
I have been with men of different sizes. I was married for 15 years and my husbands penis was fine for me, however his attitude sucked. That is why we are no longer together along with MANY other reasons. A year after our divorce I met a wonderful man whom I adored. His penis was VERY DIFFERENT from the man I had spent 15 yrs. of married life with. Well, I ajusted. His penis was a was about the same "erected length" and had a "curve" to it, which I had never even seen beore! Oh well, it was great also. We were together for 10 years. Okay, 2.5 yrs. after our break up I met this gentleman and I have never experienced a sexual relationship with someone who had a larger penis. I was almost afraid. My previous two partners were average, at least that is what I thought...about 7 inches or so and nice circumfrence. This man had about a 9-10 inch penis and was much larger in circumfrence. The first time we had sex and he penetrated me very gently, I didn't think I would be able to handle it. It actually took my breath away at first and I told him to please be easy. He went slowly and after a few sharp pains I adjusted and it was great. So, does size matter? Well at first it may but I do believe you will adjust. On the other hand, if you have a partner who is "larger than normal", whatever that is, and he is not gentle, it will be painful but I also know you should be able to get used to it. If the mentality is right, the feelings are mutual, in a relaxed atmosphere and everything is JUST SO, then enjoy yourselves immensely and do not be afraid to let it show! Always remember to ask one another if it feels good or if there is something different your partner would like for you to do because everyone is different. One more statement...I went out with another guy several times over a priod of time and knew him fairly well through the community. His penis was a little on the "thinner" side but boy could he move! So there you have it...make the most of what you have!!! Cheers and happy sex!
Things have pretty much not changed for me since my last post. My body has not adjusted to his size. Having a lover that is bigger than you with a very large penis of 9+ is hard on the relationship. We don't have sex often enough for him. When we do, he acts like he's never going to get again. It becomes a little rough and he seems to take for ever to ejaculate. I just don't have the right vaginal length to accommodate his size. Because he ALWAYS gets caught up in the moment, he really does not understand when to stop forcing him inside of me. I know most women are wondering why I am complaining, my friends tell me how lucky I am etc. Well it's not any fun for me. It takes me a few days to recover. He does not like to have any other positions other than missonary I suppose because of his age (56). With the size of him inside of me and him on top of me during sex my whole body just can't take it. Plus I'm not getting any younger. If we stay together I can't see how much longer I will be able to handle. For me sex is important but I don't need to have everyday like him. One thing he has seems to now is wait unitl I've gone to sleep only to wake up with him on top of me starting to have sex. He said there is less time for me to react and say no. I need something to change or I'm going to have to end this.
Unless you have a medical condition known as micro-penis, knowing yourself and knowing your partner will help you a lot more than simply having a big engine.
If you're curious about what's average, you can check out these sites for some stats:
http://www.howlongisyours.com
http://sizesurvey.com
Keep it up!
i've been wit my boyfriend for a while now, and weve recently decided to have sex, his penis wasnt very big but was very pleasurable, i've been with guys with large penises and small, i honestly like small better IF they know how to use it. i don't think big penises are better than smaller, in my opinoin smaller is better.
Everything "tim" said is amazing. More guys need to do that!!
I agree. I am one of those women who cannot orgasm from penetration but from clitoral manipulation. So size really does not matter.
I feel quite insecure about the size of my vagina. My fiance and I once got into the discussion of vagina size. Previous to meeting me he had been with lots of women, over 50. He informed me that all women were different. Of course, this peeked my interest..I knew that some women were tighter, but I'd never thought that a woman couldn't accomodate the length of a man. Just never thought about it, it was never an issue in my sex life. I've only been with 3 men, and one was smaller, but it was never an issue. He pleased me just fine... because with women knowing that a man desires you is a huge turn-on.
Back to the conversation with my fiance..after making that statement, yes I had to ask,"well how is my size?" He said, "We are a perfect fit, not like my ex-wife who was too small for me"
I guess I'm supposed to be feeling great that we're a perfect match, but instead I now find that I'm jealous of his first marriage! I mean girls are subjected to insensitivities too.. inject vagina joke here- just like guys that feel too small, girls can feel the same insecurity about being too big. I'm trying to get over my insecurity, but I know men prefer a tighter vagina! Am I right about this guys?
I am a man with an average size member.My wife and I went through several years without ever reaching a mutual orgasm.Through much experimentation and open comunication in the bedroom we finally found a trick that could help alot of men.
1.set your partners pelvis on an elevated surface with legs spread.(a stack of pillows works great)
2.begin messaging the clitoris in a way that is pleasing to your partner.(my wife prefers pressing gently directly on the clit with my thumb and gently moving it in a cirlular motion)
3.With you on your knees gently insert the penis at an angle which will provide direct contact with the G spot.
4.Hold the base of the penis tightly with thumb and forefinger so as to prevent ejaculation.
5.Briskly move the penis in a circular motion while continuing to stimulate the clitoris.
6.Continue the above until you feel slight seizure activity from your partner.(or instruct her to give you a clue when she is close to orgasm,with my wife she will pull my hand away from her clit.)
7.Release your other hand from your penis and ejaculate.
THIS IS A TERRIFIC TRICK AND WILL LEAVE A WOMAN BEGGING FOR YOU TO COME TO BED,NO MATTER WHAT SIZE YOUR PENIS IS.
I'm a girl who has multiple sex partners. Not too many ofcourse! And reading these posts I just wanted to say that through my experiences, long penises are not always better. You get the guy thats too rough with it, and it hits your cervix and THAT is one hell of a mood killer. I prefer thicker penises but honestly 5-6 inches works for me. And guys, if your really want to make your penises longer, I watched a show on Discovery Health about how all men can have up to 3 inches of "hidden penis." Theres a surgical procedure you can get done to make it well...not hidden any more and increase your length. But as I said, all the experiences I've had with longer men didn't end well.
Okay, I'm a guy, 29 years old, engaged to a wonderful young woman (she's 22), and I suppose I fall within the average range of the penis scale (length is 6", avg. girth is 5"). Maybe it's because my fiancee and I have a very communicative relationship, but our sex life is wonderful and it has nothing to do with penis size. We've talked about it, sure. I suppose that's natural in our society. She knows that there are larger men out there, but no part of her life revolves around penis size. That's partly why we have such a great relationship: our enthusiasm for life comes from eating at our favorite restaurant on Saturday mornings while reading the local paper, buying books at Barnes & Noble, going to yardsales, and even running errands together.
I've read a lot of the posts on this blog, though not all of them, so forgive me if I repeat something that's already been said.
Look, we're talking about sex here. Yes, it's a pleasurable act and there's a great deal of psychological expectation that gets wrapped up in it, but surely I can't be the only adult who believes that elevating penis size to such a station that it becomes its own measurement by which you judge the value of your life, is probably not the healthiest (or most satisfying) mindset.
Also, and I think a good number of women will back me up on this, confidence will bridge some of the largest gaps, guys. But both men and women should enter the bedroom because they love each other and sex is one of the ways to show it.
A final thought: I've always suspected that there's a link between promiscuity (on the part of women) and a yearning to be promiscuous (on the part of less-than-well-endowed men), on the one hand, and an obsession with penis size, on the other. But this is just a philosophical musing on my part.
my wife is happy with my 6inches all that matters to her is that i love very much and she loves my erect size
ok well im 14 years old and im with my 4th girlfriend and well shes the kind of girl who like PLAYING AROUND wellerect im about 5or 6 in and about 2 in cir well do u think when we have intercourse well be ok thanks
Will you be okay? No. I think at 14 you are too young to be having sex. What if she becomes pregnant? Are you both ready to deal with that? I doubt it. i understand you have raging hormones but you and she are not ready.
My girlfriends ex had a very large penis,she has told me about how great the sex was. I have a small one so i make sure i give her great head. We also got a 3 inch extension for me to wear, it rolls on like a condom, i wear it to make her come, then when she tells me its ok, i take it off and cum myself. While the extension doesnt add enough length or thickness to measure up to her ex's penis, it adds just enough for her to orgasm.
i'm petite and my boyfriend's tall and very well-endowed - i'd say it's about eight inches long, and it's quite wide.
sex with him can be really sore, and even make me bleed; but it definately all depends on position, as i find it to be worse when he pushes hard against my cervix - although, when he's gentle, it can be a good thing.
if we have sex for long periods of time it can get worse as we go, as you begin to lose some of your natural lubrication.
i've seen small penises in the past, and i definately prefer being with my boyfriend - but that's due to the closeness and intimacy between us, which makes everything better.
we're equal in how much previous sexual experience we each have, and therefore we can relate to each other better and are more comfortable, and we're also completely in love and talk to each other about every little thing - and it's due to this that we have a brilliant sex life; not the fact that he has a large penis.
although size can be a very good thing, it can be a burden
After reading these posts, I wanted to add some real life experiences that perhaps may help those looking for answers or advice on these topics...I’m a divorced man in my mid forties, have never remarried yet.
I’ve had sex with over 50 single women aging in range from the 20’s to their 50’s, of which 7 turned into actual relationships. About a third had children from natural child birth.
Putting aside the emotional aspect of sex and or love making; what I’ve found is essential to a healthy sexual relationship is a proper fit. For the women whose vaginas have been stretched frequently by well endowed men. There tends too much gapiness, if you’re on the average side like me with 6.5 inches length average girth. I’ve almost always brought these types of women to orgasm but it will take a lot more work and frequent adjusting.
It’s almost impossible to bottom out, (i.e. gently rub the cervix), which is quite fulfilling to men and to women if done properly. The so called gapiness sensation from not filling up her vagina can be a very unfulfilling feeling for men too. So yes, a woman who has grown accustomed to huge, thick penis can be satisfied by an average endowed man, but at what cost??? Should he remain marginally satisfied, and come only when he finally finds a position where he can obtain enough friction to ejaculate even though he’s skilled enough to make her come like crazy…..
I say no!!!! Size does matter for both parties involved and a snug fit for both partners is ideal for a truly deeper, more intimate sexual experience to develop in a relationship in my opinion.
Lets face it most experienced men don’t get pussy whipped from so called loose vaginas…That lack of a fit is why many men stray or leave over time…. It’s an unfortunate truth….My advice for dating women, is to choose your penis size carefully since most (90% of men are average).
If you have had kids like my ex wife, and you haven’t tightened back up from exercise and time, I would recommend vagioplasty(LVR) to tighten it back up to pre kid days if you want to remain with an average endowed man and have a mutually fulfilling sex life, or stick to the 10% of guys with the huge package. For them, kids or no kids, every women is tight, this I know from the well hung men that I have been friends or acquaintances with over the years. It comes up during guy talk or locker-room BS or out for drinks. It’s common that most of them tend to brag.
A simple test I have used guys: during foreplay with a potential mate, to test vaginal tightness, is 1-2 fingers fitting snug is ideal, 3 fingers is a coin toss, good vaginal muscle control could still make her a keeper or if she’s intoxicated and extremely relaxed she may be looser than normal. 4 fingers are not for you unless you’re a sadist in most cases.
This assumes you have average size hands and fingers, not bear claws
I have had one experience with a young woman, (no kids) in her early twenties whose first sexual experience was with was with a man who was as thick as a shaving cream can and 12 inches long. They had sex for 5 years and he was her first. She was a delightful young woman so I gave it a shot…..It turned out, that although I could give her pleasure and multiple orgasms and for the first time, all without discomfort (from being stretched to over the limits by her ex), I was left quite dissatisfied most of the time….Before we broke up over the sexual incompatibility, she tried something dramatic, and trained with a personal trainer who specialized in getting mothers back into shape after child birth, especially down below. Since my then girlfriend was very athletic to begin with, she endured the almost impossible regiment of lower extremity and abdominal exercises for 4 times a week, for 4 months …..Amazingly enough, her very stretched out vagina muscles and vaginal walls actually tightened back to the point were one finger was snug, her pelvic floor was lifted too and our sex was simply amazing after that. I could, for the first time penis kiss her cervix, which I previously could reach. It actually became the best sex I’ve ever had to date. However, the exercise couldn’t reduce her vaginal opening that had endured repeated ripping from such a giant penis for 5 years. So the visuals when entering her wide frontal opening were far from ideal, but once inside she was perfect.,
So, it is possible to make an impossible fit work without surgery (i.e. vagioplasty) but many times exercise alone is not enough,
I’ve been with women who had 3 kids from natural child birth who were snug, years later, after the births, but that’s not always the case. Genetics, physical condition, huge penises and other factors will all have a bearing.
These comments are based on my experiences of which I just touched upon. Hopefully you gain something from my comment…. Good luck in finding the fit that’s right for you….
In most situations, an average sized penis, (5.5 to 6.5 inches) will be more than adequate to please a woman, if she is willing to put as much into the encounter as she hopes to get.
If a guy is below five inches in length and 4.5 inches in circumference, he had best be a good financial provider and willing to be subservient to his SO if he hopes to find a permanent mate.
Lastly, if he is always the only one in the union who suggest that they have sex, it will always seem to be because of his lack of size.
EXperience talking, here.
hi im 15 and not really happy wiyh my size does it growas you get older im bout 5.5in to 6.0in will it grow more
I'm a guy and I have a 9 inch penis with a pretty big girth. I must say that most girls find me more memorable than any of their other sex partners. People all over the place know about my penis size because they tell all of their girlfriends. It must play some factor...It's gotten me referrals!
That BillSavio definitely put it perfectly though. Most girls do not orgasm internally but rather through clitoral stimulation and my penis has the ability to stimulate the clitoris while penetrating and I've heard the good screams of multiple orgasms.
However, I will admit, having this penis length and girth sucks with 80% of the women who *attempt* to pleasure me orally. Also, I've had a lot of problems having sex with a partner whose virginity I took. We dated for a year and to the very end I still couldn't penetrate her and enjoy it, it was no good for either of us probably because we didn't do it often seeing as how painful it was for her and frustrating it was for me from the start.
So in the end, there's the good and there's the bad but the good takes over greatly in my opinion...I'd never sacrifice an inch!
no matter what any man or woman says its what i feel that matters and it only takes one negative comment to leave a lifetime of embarresment and shame. yes i have a small penis or smaller than i would like to have anyway, i know it could be worse but it seems like everytime i turn around there is an ad for penis enlargement and a bunch of hot women promoting it. not only does it seem like size matters in penis length but now height seems to matter if your not tall enough alot of women wont give you the time of day. its pretty hard to have confidence these days.
I'm unhappy about my size, but my girlfriend reassures me it's decent. According to her, sex was unenjoyable with her ex because he was too big, and it always hurt. When I found this out, I felt inadequate and disturbed at the size, but she says I actually make her feel good during sex. Hope she's not saying it to make me feel better..
I'm an Asian...having below average size about 4.75inches.... i fee bad about it as I can't make different sex position as I wish....
Okay, after having read all the comments on this subject, here are my two cents: (and I hope both women and men listen and learn)
1) Be honest with your partners, let him/her know what's going on with you. If they don't listen, guess what, it's more about them than the relationship. Alpha male/female be damned.
2) Ladies, understand that if your man truly enjoys cunniligus, let him enjoy. I know some women who don't like that, (their loss), and if he refuses to indulge you, (if he doesn't like it), refer to #1, the line above this one.
3) Penis size does matter, but it's not the end all and be all. Find what works for you. If it's toys, then so be it, if it's role playing, (highly recommended by me...lol), then do that. The point is, it's not all about the "ALMIGHTY DICK". Carnal pleasure is a wonderful thing, but like every coach from any sport has said, "if your mind isn't in the game, what good are you?"
4) Last but by no means least: TRUST. The biggest obstacle I've ever encountered in a relationship, is trust. Not just the run of the mill trust. She may trust you not run around on her. He may trust you with his life. The type of trust of which I speak is simpler, but by far more elusive. You have to gain the trust of your partner that you will not hurt them emotionally or psycholically. That you truly accept them no matter what their faults are physically.
Okay, let the bashing begin.....lol.
Im 27 yrs old, I would like to ask if anyone could answer please do so. when im get erected i get easily arouse when having sex maybe 10 to 15 pumps to my sex partner i get arouse, could anyone give me ideas how to have long minutes to hold on.
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I just recently started seeing someone with a very large penis, both in length and girth. (I've never actually measured it because I don't want to make him feel like a freak show! My best estimate is 10" long and 8" girth...it's basically the size of a thicker Mag-Lite.) Thanks to the magic of cell phone pics, I was well aware of what I was getting into. He was also aware that I have tilted pelvis and I've been told I felt really tight by my ex.
So here's how we handled it: we realized we'd have to go slow. We realized we'd have to use lube. And we realized the first time we'd have to go with me on top.
And you know what? Like most sexual issues the communication was key.
Having sex with a largely-endowed man is not a simple matter of quickies. We kissed and necked for 2 hours. He performed oral sex. I performed oral sex (I'm still figuring that one out, but I keep practicing to get better).
If you have proper communication, regardless of penis OR vagina size...well, the sex is going to be great either way. We're going to be with each other for a long time, so we figured we had plenty of time to make it work.
I've had sex with smaller and sex with slightly comparable. The difference is that we are BOTH interested in doing what feels good for each other and realizing that comes (no pun intended) first.
Communication is key.
My first penis was put in me when I was 14, by a 22 year old man. I remember it was big. I had sex with him for about 2 months. I later had sex with 2 other guys before I married my husband. I was 20, he was 26. He had a small penis compared to the other 3 guys.
I was all right with that until 8 years into our marriage I had an affair with his friend. His friend
had a larger penis and it brought back memories. Iam still married to my husband and give him sex, but I now wish his penis was larger, because I do not enjoy sex with him. I think about his friend,
evenn though it ws been 19 years since my affair.
I'm about average I guess(5.5")- and I've seen both sides of the coin with the women I've dated. Some I've had genuinely great sex, while others have made it clear that I simply did not measure up
I am a 43 year old Australian with a penis that is so small that I have never been able to have intercourse. i have paid prostitutes over 1000 times and i have been laughed at and humiliated by every one of them.
I have had over 20 years of counselling and anti-depressant medication. I have never been on a date or even kissed a woman.
How is someone like me supposed to cope with my feelings of inferiority when the Australian government openly condones and uses the humiliation of men with small penises in advertising campaigns. Check this link for the advertisement
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SgV9Oa6z5wY
What a coincidence that my word verification to enable me to submit this post just happens to be "small".
Size does matter!! I`ve been with guys from 3-9+. I prefere 6-7 with a big head,to get a GOOD feelin.
For the bigger guys that the girls cant handle. The sex shops have "donuts" for the guys to wear so they wont go in very far.
Just have to find (guys or gals) what works for you and everyone is happy.
Who cares about penis size. U guys need to stop being so insecure. Just get in and get out. U came? Great! She didn't? Wa wa too bad. Move on to the next one. Women outnumber men 7 to 1. Stop being so weak. Man up.
I think they are all beautiful!
im 15 years old and i have a 7.5 inch penis. I constantly have women throwing their bodies at me. they have all aged from 14-23. Penis size must matter if i have had Incredinly gorgeous women 8 years older than me throw them selfs at me.
My soft penis is quite small, then explodes in size when hard on. And stays hard. How hard? Think diamond cutter hard. Got a little dick? Worry about something else, like Congress gone wild.
Im an average guy who is now single and plans stay single. Ive had lots of girlfriends and they all say the same things. Including my ex-wife who turned my life into a lie because she needed a larger man. No other reason to have an affair. She says it was something she needed. Distroyed my family, home and scared my heart forever. Now, I have a profound distrust in women all together. Sure, some arent like that. right!! I know I shouldnt be this way. I would love to be in love. But, that means I have to be a fool and risk being the laughing stock of the Town due to "girl talk". So I quess this one is to all you size queens out there who have a loving husband at home. Thanks for all that you are: A life killer.
well im 16 and almost turnin 17 and my penis is 6" and i think i have a small penis, will i grow more over the time>
I figured out I was married to a size queen a few weeks after we were married. I put one finger in after another and soon found myself in past my wrist and she was going crazy. For her, size matters, so we have several huge dildoes to fill that need. We've been married 30 years and still have great sex. She still has orgasms during intercourse with me and I have no trouble getting off either. I'm about 7 inches long and 5 inches around, so I'm on the upper end of average. I've never worried about her straying in some search for a huge penis. I know she likes to be filled to capacity and I enjoy doing it for her. We keep each other satisfied. Why would either of us ruin a good thing. My point? Sex is about more than penis size. Get to know your partner's needs and wants and meet them. Also keep trying new things in bed to keep it interesting.
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