Penis Size or Prowess: Which Matters More?
Penis size has been mistakenly equated with sexual prowess in our culture. Interestingly, this mistake is made by men more often than by women. Many myths exist about the relationship between penis size and other parts of a man's body, such as feet, nose, and fingers. Jokes about penis size abound but they have no meaning. That's because, simply put, size has little to do with sexual satisfaction or manliness. Yet, it is sometimes difficult to convince some people that this is so.
Some people have thought that large penises are more psychologically arousing than smaller penises. To my knowledge, only one study in 1983 by William Fisher and others (Journal of Sex Research, volume 19) has studied the influence of penis length on sexual arousal. Although the male and female subjects in this study were clearly aroused by the erotic stories they were given to read, there was no relationship between the degree of arousal and the size of the penises described in the stories.
If you want to convince yourself of the sexual importance of large penises, no doubt you could collect a group of sexual partners who were highly attracted to penises of a certain dimension. And, while there's no denying that a turn-on is a turn-on, I have always been amazed at the broad cultural acceptance of the tyranny of size when it comes to penises.
Two things are often forgotten when it comes to heterosexual penile-vaginal intercourse. First, the vagina is a very elastic environment through which a baby can pass, yet it's one that easily retains a tampon. In other words, it snugly accommodates whatever it surrounds. Second, about three-quarters of women don't reach orgasm by intercourse in the "Look, no hands" manner, no matter the size of the inserting object. They need direct clitoral stimulation.
There's a familiar saying, "It's not the meat, it's the motion." This captures the essence of sexual turn-on for both men and women -- unless they're into collecting people merely for their trophy potential. And if that's all there is, the eroticism often wears off pretty quickly.
People who do the following experiment can gain valuable insight. Take several dildos of different sizes and insert them while blindfolded. See if you can detect the difference between five and seven inches (the penile dimensions that include most of mankind).
Many men feel quite content with the size of their penis when erect, but are uncomfortable with it when flaccid. Some of their anxiety might be relieved if they knew the following: penises that appear small when flaccid grow a great deal more in size when erect than those that are larger when flaccid. Sex researchers, Paul Jamison and Paul Gebhard analyzed the Kinsey data on erect and flaccid penises to arrive at this conclusion (Journal of Sex Research, 1988, volume 24). So, in today's language, there are "growers" (those that gain size when erect) and "showers" (those that get erect, but with little change in size).
Many men would also feel less concerned about locker room impressions if they understood that just as a man's sense of smell or his eyesight are not dependent on the size of his nose and eyes, respectively, neither is his sexual capacity based on the size of his genitals.
Still, there may be reason to explore old psychological issues or insults that may influence a man to have concern about penis size. Therapy can be very helpful -- especially if he has feelings that he'd like to change.
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Some people have thought that large penises are more psychologically arousing than smaller penises. To my knowledge, only one study in 1983 by William Fisher and others (Journal of Sex Research, volume 19) has studied the influence of penis length on sexual arousal. Although the male and female subjects in this study were clearly aroused by the erotic stories they were given to read, there was no relationship between the degree of arousal and the size of the penises described in the stories.
If you want to convince yourself of the sexual importance of large penises, no doubt you could collect a group of sexual partners who were highly attracted to penises of a certain dimension. And, while there's no denying that a turn-on is a turn-on, I have always been amazed at the broad cultural acceptance of the tyranny of size when it comes to penises.
Two things are often forgotten when it comes to heterosexual penile-vaginal intercourse. First, the vagina is a very elastic environment through which a baby can pass, yet it's one that easily retains a tampon. In other words, it snugly accommodates whatever it surrounds. Second, about three-quarters of women don't reach orgasm by intercourse in the "Look, no hands" manner, no matter the size of the inserting object. They need direct clitoral stimulation.
There's a familiar saying, "It's not the meat, it's the motion." This captures the essence of sexual turn-on for both men and women -- unless they're into collecting people merely for their trophy potential. And if that's all there is, the eroticism often wears off pretty quickly.
People who do the following experiment can gain valuable insight. Take several dildos of different sizes and insert them while blindfolded. See if you can detect the difference between five and seven inches (the penile dimensions that include most of mankind).
Many men feel quite content with the size of their penis when erect, but are uncomfortable with it when flaccid. Some of their anxiety might be relieved if they knew the following: penises that appear small when flaccid grow a great deal more in size when erect than those that are larger when flaccid. Sex researchers, Paul Jamison and Paul Gebhard analyzed the Kinsey data on erect and flaccid penises to arrive at this conclusion (Journal of Sex Research, 1988, volume 24). So, in today's language, there are "growers" (those that gain size when erect) and "showers" (those that get erect, but with little change in size).
Many men would also feel less concerned about locker room impressions if they understood that just as a man's sense of smell or his eyesight are not dependent on the size of his nose and eyes, respectively, neither is his sexual capacity based on the size of his genitals.
Still, there may be reason to explore old psychological issues or insults that may influence a man to have concern about penis size. Therapy can be very helpful -- especially if he has feelings that he'd like to change.
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54 Comments:
I can agree my husband has a nice size penis but he doesn't get aroused easily I usually have to physically touch him and rub him to get him to get hard. I don't know why but he just isn't like any other man I have been with (this being my 2nd marriage) I always tell him he's not normal he says he's turned on but his body doesn't react like most men.
confused but ok
Very informative post and hope it's going to clear a lot of peoples doubts about the size. Well there are lot of people who might not said about it for them this post is the answer.
Some people gripe when theyre hung (no pun intended) with a new rope...actually HANGED with a new rope...Psychological and physiological conditions can affect erections...are you being empathetic to your husbands difficulty or are you adding to that performance anxiety...
BEEN THERE, DONE THAT
Some people gripe when theyre hung (no pun intended) with a new rope...actually HANGED with a new rope...Psychological and physiological conditions can affect erections...are you being empathetic to your husbands difficulty or are you adding to that performance anxiety...
BEEN THERE, DONE THAT
My husband gets a erection but he never ejaculates and it's very tring for me. What can be causing this problem?
The problems that I have found, unfortunately this is my third marriage, I don't like divorce, but I am happier now than I've been, in so very long; but I've been with diabetics the last 10 years - that's where I'm relating with you.... The problems ejaculating seems to be prolifec there, and also as they get older. I would check into the diabetic issue first, that would be the first sign to me, work on that issue and you will both be able to find so much more pleasure, I assure you then with love and patience it can all come together!
The problems that I have found, unfortunately this is my third marriage, I don't like divorce, but I am happier now than I've been, in so very long; but I've been with diabetics the last 10 years - that's where I'm relating with you.... The problems ejaculating seems to be prolifec there, and also as they get older. I would check into the diabetic issue first, that would be the first sign to me, work on that issue and you will both be able to find so much more pleasure, I assure you then with love and patience it can all come together!
Thank you for your comment. However he's young I'm thinking maybe it just pure enegry and I should have understanding and patience and love it will come together. But I was concerned that it could be a medical problem. If anyone could let me know please reply Thank-you
Some women may disagree, but I actually wish my partner had a smaller penis. He's 23 years older than me, I'm 31 and hi is too large for me. I love him dearly but by the time it takes for him to ejaculate it's very uncomfortable for me. I want to please him but I'm not a big women and he's a very large man, especially his penis 9+ . I'm not sure what else I can do about this? I feel I'm too small for him, he tries not to force himself too deep but then he's caught up in the moment and can not control it and this causes me a lot of pain. I'm at a lost here, what makes it worse is he would like sex every night but when I don't and it's been a while, actually makes this much worse than if I had just given in to every time he wants it because he really seems he can't control himself because to him it's been too long since we last had sex.
How long have you been together. I have experienced the saying that when you are with a man for a long time your body adjust to his size. I have been married to my second husband who is 10 yrs younger then me for almost 2 yrs and he is large and my body has adjusted to his size.
Ah I suspect the worry about penis size goes back to the cave man days. Old Alley Oop was probably envious of the size of the dongs on the dinasaurs you know. Maybe Adam was the only guy in the history of the universe who didn't suffer from "penis envy". Woody Allen jokes about him being the only GUY who suffers from "penis envy" but I suspect most of us men suffer, even if we won't admit it. I went to high school in the 1950's and their were locker jokes about it then...and probably long before. A true sign of maturity is when you stop worrying about how long your weenie is. At 66 I'm ALMOST there! Cheers!
My Fiancee has a very nice size. The problem we have is getting him aroused. One night at the dinner table I had to rub his penis to be able for him to erect an hour later. Im so tired of doing that. WHat's gonna happen when we get married?
Seriously you are worried about having to 'rub' your man too much to arouse him? This is the exact same problem most men have with women...needing too much stimulation for arousal. It is mostly mentioned that a man is ready to go in a few seconds and is insensitive to a womans need for more touching. Are you ready for sex in a few second or do you linger on it for awhile then decide to start touching him? If this really is a bother to you, have him consult with a doctor, maybe he has a health issue, or maybe he's just modest.
I wanted to say that I do agree that size doesn't matter.But.... I won't agree to that 100%. Once upon a time, I had a boyfriend who was 3" long.
And this was being erected.
I really couldn't feel a thing during sex. This man was 6 Feet tall. I never said a word about it. As you can see we are no longer together. Can some men really be that small?
Is there anything they can do? Like us women with no breast, we get breast implants. Sweet guy that's all I could say.
I am happy that someone else agrees on this topic...I try to explain to my husband that it REALLY DOES NOT matter the size of his penis, he is sized just right for me ! Hopefully he will realize it one day, I don't know how many times I am going to have to tell him though !!!
To some degree I feel that penis size is not strictly, "Bigger is better." But I must say that, talking to women, "Bigger is better A LOT OF THE TIME" The truth is (men know it, and women who enjoy intercourse know it), it feels good to be filled out by a larger penis. A large penis is particularly capable of rubbing against the labia. This rubbing causes a "tugging" of the clitoris. Also, a long penis can push the cervix GENTLY and cause a full-body incredible "cul-de-sac" orgasm. This kind of orgasm is much more intense, women say, than a clitoral orgasm. And it happens when you have a long penis (7, 8 or more inches) rest against but push gently against the cervix. (Note--cervix contact must be gentle). NONE of this is possible with even an average penis. Again, according to women's reports, this is possible with a penis of about 7 inches (no less) or larger (8 inches sometimes, but not longer), and preferably about 6" in circumference (average is 5" circumference). but onl;y about 10% of men have penises like this!! So a lot of women NEVER have this experience. The women that have had sex with men who had big penises are the women who report that bigger is better. Note that it's not so much denied now that "Girth" is what matters (which is just another way of admitting that, yes, size matters!).
It's not good to keep promoting the myth that size matters only to a few women, or that size does not matter because the vagina expands to whatever size penis the man has.
The verdict is coming in more and more often as women gain freedom to enjoy sex that larger-than-average penises can feel better, that many women get a better feeling---actually feel something----with a large penis.
It seems like women do not forget the guys with big ones! These women covet them and share their "big" stories with other women at work. I have heard them talk (raises the hair on my neck as a man!). Also, women who find big guys are often envied by their women friends. They say, "Oh, wow, you are so lucky that he's so big!" Haven't you heard grandmothers and mothers sometimes say about their baby boys (if they have large penises), "Well, he'll make some woman very happy when he grows up."
The large penises get an "Oh" reaction when they enter the vagina. When women scream during sex (in a good way), they do so when their lover is big, not with an average or smaller penis!!! Now, the average and smaller ones can be great, "If he knows how to use it." Big guys do not need to know how. And sometimes big guys who ignore technique lose out---they're not good lovers. but big guys who DO know how to use their large penises beat all others!
Even in this culture where we feel we are free to admit what we like, THIS IS TABOO to admit!!!! To say that 85% of men (not large) fall short of being able to create that great vaginal sensation for women sounds wrong of course, and maybe even outrageous. But it's true! That rare fraction of men, "Big" men, the 10% out there, do not have to work hard to give pleasure. Nor do they have to be skilled with their tongues or hands. Nor do they have to be particularly nice to get asked back into bed!
I know this sounds awful. But it's worse to keep denying it. We've always known this, but the male ego is injured by this. Or, 90% of them are. The 10% of men who are big either brag (obnoxious) or just smile and know what they have, and their women know, too, and call them after they break up!!
It's not all negative here. The good news: women ARE capable of accepting a less-than-big penis if the guy has other good features. Men need to accept that this is true.
I'd just like to thank billsavio for not allowing political correctness to stand in the way of the truth. It's okay ladies, we know you'll ditch a smaller guy for a bigger one any day of the week, so stop thinking you're sparing our feelings (you're not) and just be honest for once.
I find this old subject has not changed since I was in school about 44 years ago. I consider myself a average sized man. Never had a problem with my sexual partners. I agree with the good doctor, it more about technique and having feelings for the woman, and being attentive to her needs that are the most important. As far as needing to reach the cervix, I have been able to do that, but the women did not experience anything better because of it.Regarding adjusting to a large penis, I think that might be true up to a point, keeping in mind that the entrance to the vagina is a muscle that extends down and around the anus. And any muscle can become slacken,if not excercised, to the point that even a very large penis would be lost inside. Also keeping in mind that different women have different sized vagina's, some are longer than others, therefore, a longer penis is not needed, if it is the intent to reach the bottom. And you can't tell by the shape of the woman on the outside, what size she might be on the inside.
Most if not all the women that I have been with, preferred and always achived an organism from direct or indirect stimulation of their clitoris. Not many nerve's inside.
Besides if bigger is better I wonder how many women have a fantastic organism when giving birth??
"Reality check"
The secret is your tongue ,guys.Nothing feels better than your warm tongue sucking and licking her clitoris at same time, when she comes put your index and middle fingers in ,rubbing and stroking agaisnt the wall of her vagina ,more on the front part 2 inches inside where the G spot is, finally put your penis in with quick stroke.When you come withdraw and come on her chest,rub it on her breasts.No matter the size of your penis you just gave her the mind blowing sex.
I think that size definitly matters. My husband is 8 1/2 inches and it hurts so bad when we have sex that we can only do it missionary style. Even that hurts if he's not capable of being gentle and not going in to far. I have always been small in that region and it makes life difficult. One of my sons was average as a baby, and my other is huge. Although both had comments made by nurses about their sizes. It's hard to judge when I only know my two little boys, but I would think nurses would know.
I had problems with my hanging size was only a couple inches but I was over 5 inches in erect length. I got this Fastsize Extender and it help em hand flaccid another 1 1/2 and and 1" in erect length. It also gave me the ability to have an erection longer.
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What is a good or preferable penis size? Most girls that I have hung around that had multiple sex parters said that they did not prefer too large or larger than normal (Average) penis. They would complain that it was more painful than pleasurable. They did say that it was a little more arousing to see the a Large penis, but thats where it stopped. The women that say they enjoy or prefer a Large penis most likely have had Alot of sex with that partner that has the Large penis or with multiple other partners. I do believe that the vagina is elastic and can adapt to many sizes but not all, and thats why some women like it big and some don't. To the guy or women who wrote #16. The stories I have heard from women is that the guy with the larger than average penis has to concentrate more on not hurting the women than making her feel good. But then again, not every woman is the same.
women have it pretty good small breasts = implants . guy small penis = nothing. where's the research, what is the medical field doing about it? do they care? quality of life greatly affected for man with small penis
Off course, none of that really matters. If you've recently became a new daddy and your sex life has been put on hold indefinitely. Are you feelin me new dadda’s?
2 inches or 25 inches, your boxers don't giva a dam :)
It all comes down to preference, all women are different, well at least most are. my last girlfriend, said I was thick enough, but not long enough, she prefers length. all my other lovers, didn't complaint. I'm 6 x 5, cut, average size. some men are smaller than me, why?, am I complaining. Think about it ladies, if u made a list of the ten most important thing's to u, in a relationship, penis size better be # 9 or 10, or not even on the list, tell me ladies, what do u think about this statement?
I completely disagree with this article.
As a woman who has had intercourse with quite a few men, I can say, without equivocation, bigger is better!
Indeed, some smaller men can compensate, but when it comes down to it it just is what it is.
The feeling of being "filled" is incredible. All my freiends agree, bigger is just a physchological turn-on. Asthetically, bigger is huge turn-on too.
Sorry, smaller men, but this girl says bigger is better!
I found out something that may shock some(men)who read this. For years my penis seemed a little above the normal ranges in length and girth. But I had a kidney stone remove and lo and behold, within about a month my penis increased in length and size both when flacid and during erection. I would estimate an increase of 2-3 inches in length and girth. "Why?" Maybe someone could explain it. I can't, but I will say this, my wife can't seem to keep her hands off it and likes to pat the front of my pants several times a day. Strange?
I have always felt my size was inadeqate although I am average size. My wife says I'm fine for her, but I know she is only trying to not hurt me. I have learned to satisfy her with my hands and with oral sex except she usually will not let me do that although I like it and am very good at it. Our best sex is always just slow senuous foreplay.When she wants to be satisfied(about half the time she dont)we just have foreplay and I'll massage her clit and g-spot at the same time, she will explode with three or four orgasms It turns me on so much I climax at the same time, our best sex usually doesnt include intercourse! The bed will be so wet you would think someone poured a half gallon of water on it. If I can hold out during this intense time and penetrate her with my penis she will hold me back and is uncomfortable with full penetration at first as if I were too big. However if she is not excited very much like for a quicky I never satisfy her with my penis. Except for maybe once or twice during anal intercourse which she loves but will not admit it and rarely ever does that anymore. We have been married 20 years.It amazes me that she still has a hard time communicating what she wants,she would much rather I just read her mind and do it. But Most of the time I cant. Men are eager to pleasure a woman to full satisfaction but you ladies have to guide us enough to know what does it for you. As for penis size,the good news for us average guys is there is only a few of the big ones so ladies know they have to accept you the way you are.Besides, the men that I know were big can not keep a woman for any length of time.So big may lure a curious girl in but it will not keep her. So men,learn how to pleasure her g-spot and whole body with lots of senuous touching,kissing,nibbling,licking ,sucking and massaging, I garantee she really won't care if you have a big one as long as you have a hard one !!!!!!!!!!!and focus on her not yourself !
I think this becomes an illness for us men, I have often wondered if I was big enough or else i wouldnt have looked this topic up. Athough I dont think that it really matters to us, if its big enough, just as long as we come, I say this because as men we want and need to fill like we're the alpha male in a pack. I mean come on guys, yeah its not an easy task getting down their as if shes a full course meal. Call me a pig, but it takes me a good fifteen min. to eat a full course meal, its takes her sometimes a good thirty min. To orgasm. I think its over rated and to often examand under a microscope.
There is truth in all the above, but like they say, different strokes for different folks. Have had both and an average guy who knows how to pleasure a lady is worth a dozen big sized pricks. Too many times men are in a hurry, slam bam thank u m'am. For those experiencing pain, your partners should take time caressing, fondling, exploring etc. females will never relax and enjoy when the fear of pain is a threat to sex. Annonymous I tip my hat to you, hope other men who fall short will take some tips from you. Matured women will agree it's more about the romancing than the penetration. Keep it up (no pun intended).Some large guys aiint got a clue what that thing is for.
The only time penis size mattersis if the fit isn't good.
If a man has too large a penis, he need only find a more accmodating woman. If his penis size is smaller than average in both length and girth, his woman will likely find better accmodations with another man.
It is far easier for a man who possesses an average or larger sized organ to find partners than it is for the guy "blessed" with an undersized unit.
It's just the way it is. It is no different than a man trying to compete in a 100 meter race when his overall height is only four feet and everybody else is five feet six inches tall or taller.
There are women who will settle for less, but it takes some effort to find them.
Being a woman, I have never had anyone with a large penis, only smaller ones. The guys who knew how to 'use it' are memorable but the ones who didn't do anything 'exciting' are not memorable. It's how you use it. I can't lie, I'd like to at least once try one of a larger size. I've not been blessed with the chance yet but for you guys who are a normal size, try things different, do exciting things and it won't be even noticed. For oral, normal is nice.
I was with a guy who had a 8-9 inch penis. If only size was what it took to get a girl off. It really isn't. Eager to do the deed, he rushed the process and it hurt EVERY TIME. I can't even tell you how many times I expressed to him the importance of foreplay and slowing down, but even foreplay was painful....a lot of jamming fingers resulting in uncomfortable tugging and pulling of my labia. He even made oral sex uncomfortable....maybe because everything was so raw fromt he painful things he was dong with his hands that by the time his mouth got there I wanted to cry, but also didn't want to hurt his feelings. As for actual intercourse...usually didn't do much for me, but hurt. Had I been adaquately aroused...who knows maybe I would enjoy his size more, but I never had that opportunity. The boy never made me cum in the three years we were having sex. For the first two years, he did't seem to really try, but due to increasing complaints from myself about bleeding and pain during and after intercourse...he tried...a little. His unusually large penis gave him absolutely no advantage over a smaller guy who knew how to focus on a girl's needs more than his own....because that's the only way you will ever get the girl to cum. Boys...work on her needs...you will more than likely cum regardless...she needs extra work, so show her you love her and work it!
I'm a single man and I believe that size does matter. I've been with women of all widths and there is nothing that I prefer more than a small tight vagina. It's the greatest feeling. Sorry wide girls.
i wish my husband had a smaller penis because he has a 12 in long penis and it hurts so much when he penetrates me
Okay, from all of these blogs with varying opinons, I think the real truth is clear: it is just a question of compatibility. Women's size varies just as much as men. We heard from the same number of women complaining about overly large penises as small ones. The trick is finding a partner who matches your size and being attentive to their needs.
True, some people may have any easier time finding a compatible partner than others. Such is the nature of the bell curve. But the most important thing to keep in mind is that diversity in size is normal, unavoidable and unchangeable. Stop obsessing about it, find someone compatible and do the best with what you got.
I'm just commenting on this so-called "Fact or Myth" of men's penis size. For the most part when i was married to my ex-wife, i encountered a relientless battle over the size of my penis, which to my superise was made known to me by her. often these event would occur when there was concerns of me being ivolved with other women and financial matters I felt insecure about my size for some time but, i could not understand why she would want to continue to give me sexual pleasure with something that could not pleasure her. I came to the conclusion that it was all about control almost 10 years later. She practice and was able control a situation if she poked fun of my size. For some reason i could still preform with her sexually up untill our divorce. I new one thing about her, she was able to control her vaginal muscles by squeezing them. To make a long and terrable story short, I suffared low self-asteem for almost 7 years after are break-up and i truly begain to hate women. although threw "on and off" relationships i encountered more women with like views on Big Vs Smaller penises. When these circumstances accured i would end the relaitionship suddenly with out explainations and venomiously Our paths cross again (ex-wife) and we Engaged in sex like it was before. allthough we did not get married again i knew she could accommidate my size, Because she develop the art of squeezing that area vaginal walls and all women can do it, but some are just plum lazy in sexual pleasuring and look for excuses in to control the man first in to proving them-selfs. My size is 5-1/2 to 6" at most fully errected 3"girth. I continue too feel situations like this as i felt about 18 years ago, if You women need big "Cocks" to Be pleased, Please don't waste a man's time and PocketBooks on something thats not going to get it. Honesty is the the Best policy i tell a women up front when the subject of sex is comming up. You do the same cause your playing with peoples feeling esspecially if he's thinking commeted or long term relationships. We all know that a women #1 & #2 intrests is not sex and love. It's not being without Etc. Financial Stability and Protector is #1 & #2. If you know in your heart that a man can become or be made too feel worthless in the bedroom than he would fail eventually in those roles witch are Routinely are at the forefront of which defineds a man. If a man feels less than a man then he is a yes Maam or wimp. and then he get ran over at the office and passed over for promotioms means less Cheese for your nest!!! I'f a women not satified with you dump her fast cause this a JeZZEbel. "a Devil" that where's Prada.
i need help for my very dear friend, she has fallen in love wiht a man that is wonderful to her and her 3 children. She recently tried to have sex with him for first time, she used lots of lube but he was too large and ripped her, is ther anything she can use to stretch her vagina?
The vast majority of American women are, basically, lazy in bed.
i am 15 years old and have a penis
that is 7 inches long and curves
slightly to the left.
I need to know if this size is
good for my age.
I'm 15 with a 7 inch penis that curves a little to the left.
is this size good for my age, and will the slight curve be good for sex later on in marriage?
To anonymous above:
Please read the post which you commented on. It has the answer to your question about size.
With regard to curvature, you might find this information to be helpful.
Our experts do not answer questions here on the blogs, but you're welcome to visit our message boards if you have other questions.
longer ones hurt women's cervix and cause inflammation and even bleeding over times. Choose short one guy for your marriage partner. Length doesn't matter at all as long as it is more than 4inches!!
is six inches considered big ladies?
Okay, So this is kind of about my husband.. But, more about my son. My husband is a very well "packaged" man. Thus being my first marriage, and first man I've been with. ( But I've told my g/f's about his package and they all have congratulated me ) Anyways.. Together we have 2 children. a 4 1/2 year old little girl. and a 2 month old son. ( This being the only other penis I've ever seen.. Thats right 2 penis' in my whole life lol ) Anyways, I took my son to his 2 month check up, and his doctor said his penis was very large for a baby so young.. I haven't measured it because that would just be very wrong, but I would guess to say its like 1.5inch.. to 2.0 inches.. And its seems that its all erect, when its not. I've seen it erect and It's just insane ! Everyone thinks I'm making a big deal about this and that its normal, but I talked to a few friends of mine that have sons and they all say that their sons weren't that big at 2 months. Its the WHOLE thing.. His Penis is large and his Testi's.I asked the doctor and she just said to me " Congratulations, He'll make his life partner very happy some day " What the heck ! Anyways, I just need some reassurance from people who wouldn't lie to me. lol
Thank you, ( please don't think I'm crazy! ) :-D
I am 80 years old and have just as much fun as the big guys.
So for you ladies who say bigger is better, what are those of us guys who are less than average supposed to do? We have what we have. I'm sure as hell not going to go without.
IF IT TAKES A BIG ONE TO KEEP HER HAPPY,SHE AINT WORTH KEEPING.
So for you ladies who say bigger is better, what are those of us guys who are less than average supposed to do? We have what we have. I'm sure as hell not going to go without.
I'm in the below average category myself and have found that we don't have much choice but to go without. No woman wants us.
My penis is 6 in long and 2 in width. Where would that place me?
To anonymous with 6" 2"circ:
Is this some kind of competition? Do you really measure? If you do, stop.
This is to all of you who are so worried and especially to the ones who think no woman will want you -- you're wrong, wrong, wrong.
Stop judging yourselves based on what you see on the porn sites and what you hear from other braggarts and consider your partner. Maybe even consider your relationship with your partner. Sex is more than the act -- the intimacy, the relationship, all of it counts. If you're busy measuring or dissing yourselves instead of working on building a relationship you're fooling yourself into thinking it's all about size.
^^^^^^ Needs to read some women's opinions on the matter and then get back with us.
As a guy I would suspect size doesn't matter as much as the rest of the package. When it comes to a woman's breast size, if she is fit and has small breasts, that's a turn on. If she's flabby with large breasts, not so much. A woman is more than breast size to me, so I would hope that I am more than penis size to my wife. As an average (or perhaps slightly less than average) size guy, I have learned not to even worry about it. I've never had trouble pleasing the women I've been with, so why stress?
After reading all of this, and applying what I knew about size vs performance in bed, I can say one thing is for sure.
Size is NOT 100% of the case, if you can be creative, spontaneous, but also sensetive and caring, you will make your girlfriend/wife a very very happy woman despite your size because just shoving it in and thrusting like a piston on nitrous is what an inconsiderate porn star does, not what a man who is in love with his partner does.
Women who only say size is better, obviously don't derive pleasure from all aspects of intercourse, and probably don't care to. While yes size can play a rather respectable role in pleasing her… Confidence, creativity, and just the overall respect of a woman and her body, and the understanding of what turns your partner on will be a much more valuable asset than a massive meat stick.
My ex-girlfriend is a pretty hard girl to get off, even she admitted one night, and for me to penetrate her and try to get her off that way was practically useless, even given she was a smaller girl(4’ 9”) and i was around 5 inches long and 2 in around, we found that two gentle fingers and a constantly vigilant mind attentive to her feelings always got her much more aroused than straight up penetration. This also applied to my 'going down on her,' because while a bigger penis CAN be nice I’m sure, she actually preferred me over her past partner who I paled in comparison to simply because I explored all aspects of intercourse and made it interesting each time.
I feel, as a guy though, that even if I am 'average,' I don't feel like it and I'm sure 80% of guys feel this way. HOWEVER! I also know that a man's creative mind is a much more powerful tool in sex than his package, because if you can find out what she likes and work off of that, you will be able to satisfy her night after night after night.
If a man still doesn't feel as though his penis is long enough or can't satisfy his partner, then rather than gripe about it or give up, try to go longer in bed, even if it means you climax twice. Simply stated, always put her feelings first; get your pleasure from giving her pleasure and you will both be a happy couple despite any 'physical difficulties' you may feel. Hopefully this clears up any misguided feelings amongst men, and hopefully this will help men who aren’t as ‘generously endowed’ in the pants understand that girls can be very satisfied by most sizes from 5 to 7 inches so long as you put to use more than just ‘Junior’.
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