Other People Matter « Modern Love: Sex & Relationships

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by Christopher Peterson, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Michigan, and author of A Primer in Positive Psychology and Psychology Today’s The Good Life blog.

Positive psychology is the scientific study of what makes life most worth living. The topics of concern to this new field range from the biochemical bases of joy to the well-being of nations. However, a three-word summary suffices: Other people matter. There is not a finding or theory in positive psychology that does not underscore the importance of other people for our happiness and health.

The best way to savor pleasure is in the company of others. The most important determinants of a satisfied life are social. Indeed, good relationships with others may be a necessary condition for a happy life. Money can buy happiness – if we spend it on others. Achievement results not just from genius and perseverance but also from teaching and nurture. Character is learned from our parents and teachers. A good friend at work matters more than salary or status. People with close relationships are healthier than those without, despite – we assume – greater exposure to germs.

The Beatles told us that all we need is love. Positive psychology explains why. The good life follows in the wake of loving relationships with friends, neighbors, colleagues, family members, and spouses.

Other people matter. And we are all other people to someone else.

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Read more by Christopher Peterson, PhD on Psychology Today’s The Good Life blog.