Snoring Can Wreck Sex
In a recent article in the NY Post "Sexual Snore Losers" (18 December 2005) by Cathy Burke the author reports that "snoring spoils sex for 81 percent of couples who are just too tired to get in the mood - or stay there" and "70 percent of the 1,000 men and women he surveyed resort to sleeping in separate bedrooms."
I have heard these stats before and they continue to NOT surprise me in the least. Snoring just isn’t sexy. More importantly, snoring can be a hallmark sign of sleep apnea and that can make you tired. Sleepiness can go a long way in decreasing sexual arousal. There is also some good clinical data to suggest that erectile dysfunction (ED) can be caused by sleepiness and sleep apnea. So even if you happen to be in the mood or can be convinced to be in the mood, or use a pharmaceutical to help get you in the mood (Viagra) one may find there is difficulty in performance and satisfaction for your partner, based on sleepiness. What I mean by this is that sleepiness can reduce reaction time, create clumsiness, and increase the likelihood of depression and moodiness.
I can think of nothing less appealing that someone who is in a bad mood, fumbling around in bed, and ends up snoring before the end. Sleeping in separate bedrooms can have a direct effect on marital satisfaction. What appears to happen is that a closeness or intimacy with your partner comes from sharing a bed. Studies have shown that we see couples who report more affection are those who sleep in the same bed.
A few quick tips on this very issue can be found in my article about couples and sleep here on WebMD.
Related Topics: The Secret to Relationship Success, Sexual Fitness for Men
I have heard these stats before and they continue to NOT surprise me in the least. Snoring just isn’t sexy. More importantly, snoring can be a hallmark sign of sleep apnea and that can make you tired. Sleepiness can go a long way in decreasing sexual arousal. There is also some good clinical data to suggest that erectile dysfunction (ED) can be caused by sleepiness and sleep apnea. So even if you happen to be in the mood or can be convinced to be in the mood, or use a pharmaceutical to help get you in the mood (Viagra) one may find there is difficulty in performance and satisfaction for your partner, based on sleepiness. What I mean by this is that sleepiness can reduce reaction time, create clumsiness, and increase the likelihood of depression and moodiness.
I can think of nothing less appealing that someone who is in a bad mood, fumbling around in bed, and ends up snoring before the end. Sleeping in separate bedrooms can have a direct effect on marital satisfaction. What appears to happen is that a closeness or intimacy with your partner comes from sharing a bed. Studies have shown that we see couples who report more affection are those who sleep in the same bed.
A few quick tips on this very issue can be found in my article about couples and sleep here on WebMD.
Related Topics: The Secret to Relationship Success, Sexual Fitness for Men
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This is so true, I have printed it off and taken it home to my husband for some good reading, because he snores so bad I have had to leave the room and sleep somewhere else. His keeping me up affects my mood on eveything entirely, but a word of advice, I just recently got him some of the OTC snore spray, works wonders, you will be pleasantly surprised!
My husband and I have been married almost 2 years. I stopped sleeping in the same bed with him almost 6 months after marriage. Even though he has been to the doctor and to the sleep clinic and has been referred to a specialist he has yet to go and seek treatment. In the meantime our sex life is non existent and miserable. He is too tired to get in the mood and when he takes viagra to help with his ED it still doesn't work for him. He is still to tired. I am depressed and feel very angry and resentful towards him. Because of his lack of sleep we do not have meaningful conversations because he falls asleep once he sits down and stops moving. I can be talking to him and all of a sudden he is snoring, We also do not have any outside interest because he has no energy. Oh by the way he has fallen asleep at the wheel one time too many and had an accident. Thank God neither him or anyone else got hurt. I just don't know what else to do. I feel extemely disgusted with him because our relationship his fastly sinking down the tubes and he will not do anything. I have also tried to get him in counseling but he never can make it. So after writing in to this column I have decided that I need couseling and will seek it immediately.
help me with ideas PLEASE. i have taken this to the extreme with my narcolepsy and its just about cost me my marriage! I fall asleep in the middle of having sex. has this ever happened to anyone else or am i all alone in this one
Snoring is a fact of life. Before medicine advanced to it's current levels, man dealt with this issue the same way we do natural selection. If you can't deal with the snoring, leave. Don't let the door hit you on the way out. Someone else will love and provide for you. And for the record, you guys imply a link between snoring anderectile dysfunction. Whatever?! All a woman has to do is show up and this 38 year-old male is STILL ready to go. Just bring it! It's a sad state of affairs that something beyond an individual's ability to consciously control, like snoring, can affect people's lives so drastically. Get a life! Find someone who doesn't snore if it bothers you so badly. And for the record, people WITHOUT E.D. like myself, but who DO snore, greatly resent the inference that we may have a shortfall in the sack. I CANNOT beleive someone hasn't sued you for faulty or unfounded journalism based on your statements in this column. Anyways, have a good one! I will, snores and all.
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