Grandfather’s Stroke: Love and Patience

It was indescribable to watch my grandfather, a well-educated and highly respected ObGyn in our small community, lose all speaking skills immediately following a set of severe strokes.

While all of his thoughts and emotions were still strong, brilliant and caring, “Dada” could no longer fully express them. We learned to read his smiles, strong hugs, frustrated brow and even his fists that struck the dinner table on more than one occasion. His consistent stories and verbal communication were a huge part of him and were greatly missed, though we were so fortunate to still be with his magnificent presence.

I also recall that empty, helpless feeling of not knowing what to do around this loved one so close to me. How could I personally help without squashing his pride? What could I do to make things easier for him and more comfortable? Was there something that I could suggest to help him communicate? I wanted to lend a hand and show that I cared, but just wished that HE could let me know if I was being helpful or just frustrating him further.

Luckily, today stroke victims and their loved ones have the opportunity to exchange such concerns with other understanding members as well as our amazing Stroke Expert, Dr. Richard Senelick, in the WebMD Stroke Community. I was reminded of how fortunate members are of this informative and thoughtful community, while reading Dr. Senelick’s post, What to Tell Friends Who Offer to Help.

Please don’t hesitate to join us with your own questions and concerns. There are people out there just like you who would love to help!

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By Ginny Barr