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    When COVID-19 Separates You From the One Love

    COVID-19 has forced us to distance ourselves from one another physically – and for some of us, that means being apart from the one we love.

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    5 Signs You're Not Ready for a Serious Relationship

    You want to be in a committed relationship, but it never works out. People you meet are too needy, or too distant. Or, perhaps they are ...

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    How to Spot a 'Love Bomb'

    It feels like the kind of whirlwind romance you see in the movies. Your new partner is showering you with attention and expressing their ...

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    Are You Trying Too Hard to Fix Your Relationship?

    Some people work diligently, and persistently, at fixing their relationship problems only to “wake up” years later to the realization ...

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    How to Connect When Your Partner Is Being Defensive

    You talk – and your partner reacts defensively. Getting your concerns across to them is like trying to deliver a message to a brick wall ...

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    How to Handle the Conflicting Emotions of Caregiving

    Caring for a loved one can be emotionally draining. Whether you’re caring for an aging parent, ill spouse, or a special needs child, you ...

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    Be Your True Self to Have a Healthy Relationship

    It’s natural to feel tempted to present only the attractive, agreeable parts of yourself – we all want to be accepted, and even admired ...

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    Is It Okay to Change for Someone Else?

    I hear it again and again while conducting therapy: “I’m not going to change for him” or “I can’t expect her to change for me.” I understand ...

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    How to Change Relationship-Damaging Behaviors

    Do you explode in anger? Isolate yourself from friends? Or act in some other way that causes problems? Like many other people, you may ...

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    Are You Addicted to Love?

    If you struggle with intimate relationships, you might relate to a reader who recently asked me to address love addiction. This person ...


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  • Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

    Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

    Dr. Becker-Phelps is a licensed psychologist in NJ and NY, and is on staff at Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital, Somerset. She is dedicated to helping people understand themselves and what they need to do to become emotionally and psychologically healthy. She accomplishes this through her work as a psychotherapist, speaker and writer. She is the author of Bouncing Back from Rejection and Insecure in Love .