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    Be Your True Self to Have a Healthy Relationship

    It’s natural to feel tempted to present only the attractive, agreeable parts of yourself – we all want to be accepted, and even admired ...

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    Is It Okay to Change for Someone Else?

    I hear it again and again while conducting therapy: “I’m not going to change for him” or “I can’t expect her to change for me.” I understand ...

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    How to Change Relationship-Damaging Behaviors

    Do you explode in anger? Isolate yourself from friends? Or act in some other way that causes problems? Like many other people, you may ...

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    Are You Addicted to Love?

    If you struggle with intimate relationships, you might relate to a reader who recently asked me to address love addiction. This person ...

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    Signs It's Time to Seek Marriage Counseling

    By the time most couples attend their first counseling session, they are far down the road toward irreconcilable differences. There are ...

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    Do You Lose Yourself in Relationships?

    You might think that truly loving someone means caring about them with all of your being – but you can’t really give all of your being ...

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    When Your Heart Feels Empty

    Having a sense of emptiness in your heart can be a soul-wrenching experience. It can bring episodes of intense aloneness, and then ...

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    When You and Your Partner Deal With Problems Differently

    You’re frustrated with the way your partner deals with relationship issues. Maybe they ignore problems (which just makes things worse) ...

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    How to Make Peace With Your Inner Critic

    Though many of us jokingly put ourselves down (and many comedians have a made a career of it), being self-critical is no laughing matter ...

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    5 Signs They Won't Commit

    There comes a point in your relationship when you want a commitment. Hopefully, you and your partner reach that point at the same time ...


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  • Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

    Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD

    Dr. Becker-Phelps is a licensed psychologist in NJ and NY, and is on staff at Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital, Somerset. She is dedicated to helping people understand themselves and what they need to do to become emotionally and psychologically healthy. She accomplishes this through her work as a psychotherapist, speaker and writer. She is the author of Bouncing Back from Rejection and Insecure in Love .