COVID-19 has really changed our lives. Social distancing is the new norm, and we all need to do it. Staying inside and keeping to ourselves can help curb the spread of infection and help our hospitals function by lessening the load of patients coming in. And we all need our hospitals to function. But it is not easy to isolate ourselves – as humans, we are social beings.
So how can we socialize in the time of social distancing? Here are some of the most common scenarios to consider.
Can kids have playdates, or just one friend over?
In one study in Pediatrics, 13% of children were asymptomatic – that means they had coronavirus but didn’t have symptoms. Unfortunately this means that even your neighbor’s kid who you’ve known for years and looks well could have the virus. Also, he may have been in contact with someone who has it. Unfortunately, for now, playdates is a no.
Can we see grandma since we are not sick?
Another no. The elderly are especially at risk for getting really sick, and because anyone can be a carrier, it is wise to stay away from grandma. You can Facetime her or speak to her via Skype. Visual interaction can be much better than the phone. Also, if grandma is healthy, encourage her to go for a walk by herself but be careful of touching anything and wash her hands well when she gets back.
Can I go for a walk with a friend?
Maybe. If you are without symptoms, and the friend is without symptoms, and both of you don’t have underlying health issues, you could do that – if you stay 6 feet apart! And make sure that you don’t share a water bottle or touch anything of theirs. I did take a walk with a neighbor recently, and it was a nice ‘getaway’, but we both followed these rules. I may have her over for a coffee on the porch outside – we will sit 6 feet away and have paper cups so we can dispose of them and reduce exposure.
How else can I socially interact?
Unlike the times of the Spanish flu or polio, we are really lucky to have technology that we can communicate. Jump on a conference call with your work colleagues so you can see their faces – visual communication (seeing facial expressions) is an important part of human interaction, and this can help you feel less isolated. Have visual calls with friends and family as well; it’s wonderful to see others, even if it’s by a screen.
Is there anything else that can help the feeling of social isolation and or symptoms of loneliness?
Research has shown that one way we can feel more connected is by showing compassion towards others. There are many people in difficult circumstances right now – industries like restaurants and retail stores are shutting their doors, leaving many people without jobs. For the 1 in 4 families who depend on school lunches to feed their kids, life is very challenging right now as schools are shut down. Can you and your neighbors help them? Can you reach out and see if anyone needs food when you go for a grocery run and possibly deliver some bags to them? Kindness towards others not only helps them, but you as well.
Social distancing can feel like social isolation, but we can try to close this gap by doing some of things above. It is not easy to be in this circumstance, but we must all do our part to keep ourselves, and others, safe.